Hi all,
Yet again I turn to the wisdom of you all.
Brief background for those who don't know. OH has Alzheimer's and Vascular Dementia and has been in a Dementia Assessment Unit for 3 months. Best Interest Meeting done and CHC funding agreed. He has been accepted by a very highly recommend Specialist Dementia Nursing Home, just waiting for place to become available. OH has little understanding of either the fact that he is ill, where he is and the level of care he needs.Agitation and aggression are constant visitors to his personality although not all the time. In the same way he is not always completely confused but his inability to retain information makes conversation difficult on most levels. Because of this he appeared not to understand the outcome of the best interest meeting.
Anyway strangely having been through a pretty traumatic period over the last 12 months, both my daughter and myself are now finding visiting difficult and really we don't know why. We have been dealing with the requests to take him home on and off throughout his whole stay, some angry some pleading and some just generally vague and soon forgotten. Also his journey back in time to when his daughter was small and her mum, his previous wife was around. Sadly she passed on a couple of years ago and my daughter is still coping with that.
It just seems strange to us that these feelings of not really wanting to visit and spend time with him should surface now, after much of the difficult stuff has been done. Although we are aware there will be more when he is moved.
Grateful for any thoughts anyone may have
Yet again I turn to the wisdom of you all.
Brief background for those who don't know. OH has Alzheimer's and Vascular Dementia and has been in a Dementia Assessment Unit for 3 months. Best Interest Meeting done and CHC funding agreed. He has been accepted by a very highly recommend Specialist Dementia Nursing Home, just waiting for place to become available. OH has little understanding of either the fact that he is ill, where he is and the level of care he needs.Agitation and aggression are constant visitors to his personality although not all the time. In the same way he is not always completely confused but his inability to retain information makes conversation difficult on most levels. Because of this he appeared not to understand the outcome of the best interest meeting.
Anyway strangely having been through a pretty traumatic period over the last 12 months, both my daughter and myself are now finding visiting difficult and really we don't know why. We have been dealing with the requests to take him home on and off throughout his whole stay, some angry some pleading and some just generally vague and soon forgotten. Also his journey back in time to when his daughter was small and her mum, his previous wife was around. Sadly she passed on a couple of years ago and my daughter is still coping with that.
It just seems strange to us that these feelings of not really wanting to visit and spend time with him should surface now, after much of the difficult stuff has been done. Although we are aware there will be more when he is moved.
Grateful for any thoughts anyone may have