hey all, I’m new to the forum, but have been using all of your wonderful advice for a while. My Dad (69) has early late stage Alzheimer’s (although I’ve always thought Lewy Bodies), cared at home by my Mum (my and my sister live 6 hours away with young families but try to help as much as possible with planning, paperwork, speaking to all professionals). She’s always resisted help, but realises now that it’s reaching crisis point.
Dad can’t help/is resistant (and violent- slapping, holding wrists, swearing), with all of his care routine (scared we think, as huge problems with sequencing, perception, communication). Can take 45 mins to get him on the toilet then he doesn’t go, then has an accident. Collapses with low blood pressure every day. In a delusional state most of the time (day and night) about his “work” and communication is now jibberish.
If they go out my mam has to rely constantly on the help of strangers, it’s crazy.
My mum is just exhausted and can’t cope as he can’t go out of the house, but can’t be left alone (turns hobs on, opens sockets, toilets on the floor etc).
Is it time to consider nursing homes? Or is excessive in house care better. Are we being weak? SW thinks he should be in a home I think and thinks mum is in denial. I wish I had done answers. My poor Daddy, it’s all so undignifying; and my poor Mum is in a living hell.
Thanks all xx
Dad can’t help/is resistant (and violent- slapping, holding wrists, swearing), with all of his care routine (scared we think, as huge problems with sequencing, perception, communication). Can take 45 mins to get him on the toilet then he doesn’t go, then has an accident. Collapses with low blood pressure every day. In a delusional state most of the time (day and night) about his “work” and communication is now jibberish.
If they go out my mam has to rely constantly on the help of strangers, it’s crazy.
My mum is just exhausted and can’t cope as he can’t go out of the house, but can’t be left alone (turns hobs on, opens sockets, toilets on the floor etc).
Is it time to consider nursing homes? Or is excessive in house care better. Are we being weak? SW thinks he should be in a home I think and thinks mum is in denial. I wish I had done answers. My poor Daddy, it’s all so undignifying; and my poor Mum is in a living hell.
Thanks all xx
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