Why would he bother being nice if he was not interested?
In the world of low self esteem ... lots of reasons lol
Why would he bother being nice if he was not interested?
I daily thank heaven that I did not live with Mum, I am pretty sure that one of us would not have survived the week. So, I take my hat off to you, Sam, and all live-in carers!
Counselling sounds like a good idea, as you said to Slugsta, it's the opening of pandora box that may be difficult to close is scary. I truly wish I'd gone after the loss of dad, took three years and I really struggled, saying to everyone ' I'm fine ' now for past two years it's easier xHi @Margi29
This taking things out of the washing,hand washing them and hanging on her radiator is a new one here. I did have to ask her last night where all her knickers have gone. There must have been 20 pairs last week, now I can only find 4 or 5???
Mum does a charity bag, I dump it in the garage & go through it, returning some of it to her room. It does wind me up when I get told this neighbour or that one took a few bags for her. It doesn’t matter how many times I ask them not to, they seem to think Mum has the right to dump all her clothes. What the heck do they think she can wear?
I asked Mum what she fancied for dinner, any preference, she ignored me. I went upstairs to put some washing away & came down to find her head in freezer. Still no response. I’ve asked her again. Still ignored. She’s then told me “I know you are fed up of cooking for me, so get me some ready meals & I’ll have them”
She then says she will have soup for dinner. I can’t eat it, so that’s handy.
Tried saying it’s not helping for her to have ready meals. I still have to cook for me, I’m just asking if she had any preferences. So I then get told I was in a foul mood all day???
She spent the day asleep in the lounge or her room. Got the right hump about me going out for an hour & then played with her food. If anyone was in a foul mood it was her. I kept trying, asking if she wanted anything, suggested watching rubbish TV etc, but she wanted to go to bed.
I guess me going out for an hour today is the real reason for her mood. After all, I didn’t say what I was going for, but then I thought saying I was going to talk to a counsellor about how awful she makes me feel, probably wouldn’t be such a great idea
She hates me chatting with the carers. She hates me going out. She hates me chatting with S. she gets cross if J comes round & we go into the lounge (because Mum is watching her soap). Just can’t get it right
I can see a very large CM on my horizon.