Hi All
I have not posted on this forum since 2014 when my parents (for whom I was a carer) both passed away. Now it is my husband’s turn to care for his 89 year old father. Again, he is 65 miles away but this time there is no prospect of moving closer so the care is largely remotely managed with employed (and excellent) carers. Jack has never been diagnosed as having dementia but it is obvious to anyone with the smallest knowledge and/or experience that he is now in the later stages of the condition.
This post concerns his physical health. My husband and his brother had LPA for financial affairs but not health. When I acquired LPA for my own father it was not easy or, indeed, advised to try to obtain the health LPA but it seems from a quick perusal of these forums that that has now changed. Jack has been fitted with a catheter since the end of last year and is now meant to be going into hospital next week for an operation to sort out his enlarged prostate. Yesterday we had a family lunch and my husband mentioned the forthcoming op; of course jack had forgotten about it but seemed unfazed. However, brother-in-law returned jack to his home after lunch and Jack declared that he did not want to have an op. What we are wondering is what we should (or indeed can do). The ramifications of having or not having the op are manifold and we really can’t decide on the best option. But, essentially, should we just tell him he’s going in to have the catheter removed (technically true) and hope he does not make a fuss once there or should we cancel the procedure. Any advice would be very welcome. Thanks in advance for your help.
I have not posted on this forum since 2014 when my parents (for whom I was a carer) both passed away. Now it is my husband’s turn to care for his 89 year old father. Again, he is 65 miles away but this time there is no prospect of moving closer so the care is largely remotely managed with employed (and excellent) carers. Jack has never been diagnosed as having dementia but it is obvious to anyone with the smallest knowledge and/or experience that he is now in the later stages of the condition.
This post concerns his physical health. My husband and his brother had LPA for financial affairs but not health. When I acquired LPA for my own father it was not easy or, indeed, advised to try to obtain the health LPA but it seems from a quick perusal of these forums that that has now changed. Jack has been fitted with a catheter since the end of last year and is now meant to be going into hospital next week for an operation to sort out his enlarged prostate. Yesterday we had a family lunch and my husband mentioned the forthcoming op; of course jack had forgotten about it but seemed unfazed. However, brother-in-law returned jack to his home after lunch and Jack declared that he did not want to have an op. What we are wondering is what we should (or indeed can do). The ramifications of having or not having the op are manifold and we really can’t decide on the best option. But, essentially, should we just tell him he’s going in to have the catheter removed (technically true) and hope he does not make a fuss once there or should we cancel the procedure. Any advice would be very welcome. Thanks in advance for your help.