Yep, just witnessed mum in absolutely glorious 'hostess mode' with the Social Worker. I requested a 2nd visit because the first meeting a month ago was such a joke. On that occasion, mum said 'yes' to everything and when the SW left she said "Oh your mum's lovely and is obviously coping really well isn't she!". I rang her the next day, told her the reality and she agreed to come again today. Mum was still very much on her best behaviour (!) but this time the SW could see through the confabulations etc, so I feel very relieved. And then I take her out for lunch and she can't process the difference between green and red on the pelican crossing and nearly walks into the path of a lorry!
We're going to get carers to pop in every evening to make sure mum takes her meds, as at the moment she just hides them in random places. Not that there is any guarantee she'll let them in the house. But it's a start. Like you, feel that today has been an ok day! A very nice Practice manager at mum's GP's has offered help if I need it, and it makes a nice change to feel you're not in this alone.
I spent 5 hours last night working my way through the DLA form for mum and only got to Q32......I'm going to a Carer's course next week so might take it with me and see if I can get someone to glance through it to make sure it's ok. Onwards and upwards!
. I was on a course yesterday and there was a benefits adviser there so I was really fortunate and able to ask him to have a quick look at it. Hoping to post it off on Monday. Just posted a thread about cleaning up excrement...in desperate need of some ideas for distraction techniques! Ha, lovely!! 
