Good day everyone and Happy New Year,
I have just joined Talking Points; it's reached that time. My mother is 83, she lives alone in a lovely town in the north of England. She has always been fiercely independent, has lived alone for decades now and quite happily so. She traveled a lot in her 50s, 60s, and well into her 70s. She is surrounded by good friends (many of them aging, of course). Our family, however, is small; my only sibling lives in Sweden and I live in New York State. Our father passed many years ago and their relationship ended decades before that.
I spent much of last year getting my mother diagnosed, from near and afar. It was, unfortunately, an 8-month process until we got the official diagnosis of mixed dementia (Alzheimers + Vascular Dementia) and on to Donepezil. During that time, she worsened, and sadly, has declined rapidly since starting the medication. We do at least have social services stopping in daily to administer the medication and check in on her.
My brother, who has visited regularly over recent months, and I, who am planning a lengthy visit in the next few weeks, are doing all that we can to ensure she is cared for and healthy as can be. We fear we may be at the point of needing to move her into more secure surroundings for her own well-being. I have a lot to think of at the start of this New Year and look forward to hearing good advice and recommendations (and support) from everyone else here. Based on what I have read so far, we are still at relatively early stages; some of you definitely have your hands completely full!
I am going to start a pertinent new thread as there are specific factors that concern us with our mother, so let me leave it here for now.
Thanks,
Legal Alien