It is becoming harder to accentuate the positive as everything that we do together - even the things that my wife enjoys at the time - come back later as some form of complaint. She spends her days making rude remarks about passing strangers, moaning when the dog she loves so much does not do his business where she tells him to, complaining that things get moved around the house (yes they do but who by?) and building up her frustration and resentment so that she can have a good go at me at least once a day. Yes, I understand that having dementia must be frightening for her (she doesn't acknowledge it but I think that she does know) but the constant complaining about everything is wearing away my stoic tendencies. I am trying to train myself to show no reaction to, and perhaps even tune out, her constant litany of things that are wrong but it is hard going when not answering her is just one more reason for her to complain. Caring for someone is said to be rewarding but I'm still waiting ...