Hello everyone, this is my first post so please bear with me I just need to talk to other people who will understand what I'm going through. My mum has always suffered with mental health issues that become particularly bad when I was a teenager, my dad quit work to care for her when I was 15 and it was a very hard time, sadly my dad passed away in 2013 and we made the hard decision to put mum into an assisted care home, it was lovely and for a few years my mum did really well. She gave up smoking and started eating really well, I was very happy with her being there and felt her level of care was excellent. About a year ago she really started to go down hill mentally, became incontinent, had to have assistance with eating, became very confused during conversation etc, the assisted care home said they were struggling with mums care needs. About 3 months ago mum went into hospital as she was poorly with a water infection and ended up staying in hospital for a month as her medication Was causing problem particularly lithium. When mum was due to be discharged the care home said they could not take her back, this was heartbreaking, we then moved her to a nursing home, it is ok but there are so many residents and I worry she now doesn't get as much care. She was in the new home less than a week when she was back in hospital this time with aspiration phenmonia, I was called at 3am in the morning telling me to come in as mum was critically ill, I honestly didn't think she was going to pull through, miraculously she did but was nil by mouth, after a week in hospital they said the kindest thing to do would be to stop all treatments and let her pass, she was on antibiotics, oxygen and iv drip. She was moved into side room we were given end of life brochure, I braced myself for her passing. She pulled through again, this has been such an emotional roller coaster. She is now back in home, this is a few months on and she has lost an incredible amount of Weight and will barely eat. She doesn't usually know who I am, barely talks and just sits in her chair in her room most of the time or sleeps.
It's heartbreaking, iv always visited mum regularly but at the moment I haven't been going as much as usual, I have two little ones and I'm pregnant and it's really taking its toll on me, I'm waiting for a chc assessment to see if we can get more funding to move her somewhere better. Thankyou for reading my post I just feel a bit lost at the moment.
It's heartbreaking, iv always visited mum regularly but at the moment I haven't been going as much as usual, I have two little ones and I'm pregnant and it's really taking its toll on me, I'm waiting for a chc assessment to see if we can get more funding to move her somewhere better. Thankyou for reading my post I just feel a bit lost at the moment.