Hi, my mum is 81 and has Parkinson's plus dementia, previous stroke , incontinence and is cared for by my brother who lives with her and myself. Two weeks ago admitted to hospital for the first time in her life because of a suspected frozen shoulder meaning we couldn't lift her out of bed and in and out of chairs because of the pain she was in. She has had an injection in her shoulder and is moving it a bit better and hospital looking to discharge her soon. Hospital social worker suggests 2 carers come into her bungalow 4 times a day to get her up in the morning with some kind of hoist then twice during the day then to get her into bed in the evening. Mum has passed the checklist for chc but social worker reluctant to give me a copy however she said I can look at it and will apparently be contacted when the full application for chc goes ahead. At the end of the meeting with her she asked about finances and if my mum had over £23k. I said we would be self funding but did not go into any details. I realise now she should not have asked about finances. She says if I pay £260 per annum then she can source the care for me, then mum will pay £30 per hour care. This equates to around £630 per week starting from her discharge and that if mum gets chc we can claim the money back.
Social worker said mum had been catheterised since going into hospital which will make things easier at home, however after the meeting she came to the bedside and said that was a mistake and she is not catheterised. She is raising the issue with the doctors. My concern with all of this is when questioned about bowel movements I was told she would have to just use her incontinence pad. My brother has been told he cannot use the hoist as it requires 2 people, so she could be sitting in excretment for hours. We feel that morning and night carers would be enough as the rest of her care could be managed apart from bowel movements.
Should the payments start right away or not until the chc assessment has been done? . No mention of intermediate care. Social worker said situation will be reviewed after I week but i have no faith in her and don't want mum discharged to find ourselves in a pickle if I can sort it out before she leaves hospital. It seems a lot of money for 3 hours care a day, surely it wouldn't be that much more in a care home where at least she would have 24 hour care and could be lifted onto a commode or toilet if necessary.
Sorry for the long post but we really don't know what to do for the best. Social worker came to bedside today with the paperwork for me to sign and I said I would like to talk things through with my brother over the weekend before I sign and asked about intermediate/ reablement care....social worker said we should try 2 carers 4 times a day first and that we could change things in the future. Any suggestions would be much appreciated thanks
Social worker said mum had been catheterised since going into hospital which will make things easier at home, however after the meeting she came to the bedside and said that was a mistake and she is not catheterised. She is raising the issue with the doctors. My concern with all of this is when questioned about bowel movements I was told she would have to just use her incontinence pad. My brother has been told he cannot use the hoist as it requires 2 people, so she could be sitting in excretment for hours. We feel that morning and night carers would be enough as the rest of her care could be managed apart from bowel movements.
Should the payments start right away or not until the chc assessment has been done? . No mention of intermediate care. Social worker said situation will be reviewed after I week but i have no faith in her and don't want mum discharged to find ourselves in a pickle if I can sort it out before she leaves hospital. It seems a lot of money for 3 hours care a day, surely it wouldn't be that much more in a care home where at least she would have 24 hour care and could be lifted onto a commode or toilet if necessary.
Sorry for the long post but we really don't know what to do for the best. Social worker came to bedside today with the paperwork for me to sign and I said I would like to talk things through with my brother over the weekend before I sign and asked about intermediate/ reablement care....social worker said we should try 2 carers 4 times a day first and that we could change things in the future. Any suggestions would be much appreciated thanks
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