my 93 year old father is blind with dementia with extremely reduced mobility. He has 6 carers but there are a few hours over the course of the day when he is alone - usually sleeps (though having been started on donepezil recently is now hyperactive oh dear - another story). He has become unable to clean himself after BM and this visit for the first time I have had to do it. I find this totally awful. I know in comparison to what other people on this forum have to do that this seems minor (and I really don't know how on earth you all cope) but I really cannot bear it. I have had no training - the last time I had to do anything like this was when my children were in nappies. I wheel him to the loo and transfer him, taking down his trousers and pants. I have been using disposable gloves and wet wipes but I really don't know how to do it properly and worry about the state I am leaving him in for the next person. I now also feel guilty for hating this so much. The fact that he accepts it shows how far gone he is. My proud, dictatorial, authoritative father has become a hyperactive incontinent toddler. If he could see himself he would be devastated. Any advice?