My daughter is struggling at the moment, sad to say, but for the first time ever a week or so ago, I felt resentment from her. Luckily a member of the Memory clinic staff was due to pay a visit and they are hopefully going to try and get some respite care in place.
Daughter and I have talked and she said she felt trapped, she will be 47 this march, I feel helpless to help her!
She is going to try and get in the Doctors tomorrow re depression, part of the problem I'm sure is that she is so meticulous in thoughts and deeds (not sure if that is quite the description?) of how she is!
She does occasionally get a day away to meet up with friends on a forum she goes on.
Some of the restrictions she puts on herself are not needed in my present state. I.e. I can still do my own meds, ok I have to be careful re falling as not steady on my feet, due to Osteo arthritis and fibromyalgia, but it is a long time, a couple of years or more since I had a fall. I always reassure her when she does go out, that I will not do anything silly and so long as she leaves me some food, I will be fine. Afraid I no longer remember how to use the microwave and did not use the cooker because I would forget to turn it off! But the cooker has been removed, so no fear of that now.
I'm quite happy with something cold to either eat or drink.
I think some of her worries are that her daughter my granddaughter comes in when she is away, but will be going too University later this year! But granddaughter didn't need to come in anyway.
I'm afraid I'm a glass half full person and Daughter is a glass half empty.
No doubts faults, if there are faults on both sides!
Would be grateful for some kind of advice as worrying does not help either of us [emoji173]
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Daughter and I have talked and she said she felt trapped, she will be 47 this march, I feel helpless to help her!
She is going to try and get in the Doctors tomorrow re depression, part of the problem I'm sure is that she is so meticulous in thoughts and deeds (not sure if that is quite the description?) of how she is!
She does occasionally get a day away to meet up with friends on a forum she goes on.
Some of the restrictions she puts on herself are not needed in my present state. I.e. I can still do my own meds, ok I have to be careful re falling as not steady on my feet, due to Osteo arthritis and fibromyalgia, but it is a long time, a couple of years or more since I had a fall. I always reassure her when she does go out, that I will not do anything silly and so long as she leaves me some food, I will be fine. Afraid I no longer remember how to use the microwave and did not use the cooker because I would forget to turn it off! But the cooker has been removed, so no fear of that now.
I'm quite happy with something cold to either eat or drink.
I think some of her worries are that her daughter my granddaughter comes in when she is away, but will be going too University later this year! But granddaughter didn't need to come in anyway.
I'm afraid I'm a glass half full person and Daughter is a glass half empty.
No doubts faults, if there are faults on both sides!
Would be grateful for some kind of advice as worrying does not help either of us [emoji173]
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