My mother was diagnosed with Alzheimers in the summer of 2014. She lives on her own, with some support from a carer who visits once every evening to give mum her medication, and do some basic welfare checks (making sure lifeline on and that the bath lift is on charge). Plus she also has a home help for a couple of hours a week to do the housework. I spend about half the year out of the country, and mum is supported by my daughter when I'm away.
Recently it has become clear that mum would benefit from more support. She is now forgetting to change her clothes or wash, and eating regular meals or indeed, buying food (except milk, cat food and breakfast cereal) seems to be concepts that no longer occur to her. I would like to introduce more care for mother, however the agency that I currently use do not have availability. I have approached another agency who seem to be switched on as to the needs of a dementia sufferer (the importance of building up rapport etc), and have also made some interesting suggestions, such as using a whiteboard for the day's events, which the carer can update with mother every morning.
My dilemma is: should I wait for the current agency to have more availability (they have indicated that they should have space in the New Year, however I'm not convinced as from past experience, it depends who I speak to in head office as to what reply I get, and previous promises have not always been fulfilled). Or should I switch to the new carers, whose agency seem more organised and geared up for dementia sufferers.
As mother appears to have settled into a routine at the moment (albeit one of not washing/changing etc), with just a 15 minute visit from the same carer every evening for a medication and welfare check, should I keep the status quo? I am becoming a little frustrated by the current agency, who I have to constantly chase up, and I would feel more at ease if mother had more care sooner, however I am concerned that she may be unsettled by change, and react unfavourably. Her view is that there is nothing wrong with her and she is adamant that she doesn't need a carer. (She thinks of the current carer as 'the eye drop lady'). But I am constantly visiting and prompting her on a daily basis. Also I cannot do this when I'm away for months on end.
To be honest, I do not want to have this role: I would like to feel that mother is being taken care of, so that when I visit, we can have quality mother-daughter time. At the moment it feels like worry about mother and what to do is taking over my life. I also do not know how to broach the subject of the new carers with mother. I think I need to find a way to put this to her so that she does not feel her independence is being taken away. Any ideas?
Recently it has become clear that mum would benefit from more support. She is now forgetting to change her clothes or wash, and eating regular meals or indeed, buying food (except milk, cat food and breakfast cereal) seems to be concepts that no longer occur to her. I would like to introduce more care for mother, however the agency that I currently use do not have availability. I have approached another agency who seem to be switched on as to the needs of a dementia sufferer (the importance of building up rapport etc), and have also made some interesting suggestions, such as using a whiteboard for the day's events, which the carer can update with mother every morning.
My dilemma is: should I wait for the current agency to have more availability (they have indicated that they should have space in the New Year, however I'm not convinced as from past experience, it depends who I speak to in head office as to what reply I get, and previous promises have not always been fulfilled). Or should I switch to the new carers, whose agency seem more organised and geared up for dementia sufferers.
As mother appears to have settled into a routine at the moment (albeit one of not washing/changing etc), with just a 15 minute visit from the same carer every evening for a medication and welfare check, should I keep the status quo? I am becoming a little frustrated by the current agency, who I have to constantly chase up, and I would feel more at ease if mother had more care sooner, however I am concerned that she may be unsettled by change, and react unfavourably. Her view is that there is nothing wrong with her and she is adamant that she doesn't need a carer. (She thinks of the current carer as 'the eye drop lady'). But I am constantly visiting and prompting her on a daily basis. Also I cannot do this when I'm away for months on end.
To be honest, I do not want to have this role: I would like to feel that mother is being taken care of, so that when I visit, we can have quality mother-daughter time. At the moment it feels like worry about mother and what to do is taking over my life. I also do not know how to broach the subject of the new carers with mother. I think I need to find a way to put this to her so that she does not feel her independence is being taken away. Any ideas?