Hi All
We've had a rough couple of weeks, Mum has AD and Dad is f/t carer. He's just getting over a bad bout of food poisoning which included a week or so in hospital. He's home now but still not 100%. When he went in, we cared for mum at home before we got a weeks emergency respite at a local care home. It appears she settled well there, despite our misgivings and those of the professionals.
Dad is finding it harder and harder to care for mum, her condition is deteriating so she needs guidence to dress etc and is constantly unsettled at home, wandering around etc.
We know that full time care is not far away but I can't help feeling we're rushing things. Dad knows that he's struggling at times and although we support him, he can't do all the things he wants to do. But I get the feeling he's not ready to let her go yet.
Are we right to promote and encourage f/t care home or the local MH facility or wait until he's ready to accept it. I don't want to force him into a decision that he's not happy with.
I'm fortunate to have two brothers support but our feelings are divided and although we all want the best for M&D, I'm unsure on the timescale.
Quack
We've had a rough couple of weeks, Mum has AD and Dad is f/t carer. He's just getting over a bad bout of food poisoning which included a week or so in hospital. He's home now but still not 100%. When he went in, we cared for mum at home before we got a weeks emergency respite at a local care home. It appears she settled well there, despite our misgivings and those of the professionals.
Dad is finding it harder and harder to care for mum, her condition is deteriating so she needs guidence to dress etc and is constantly unsettled at home, wandering around etc.
We know that full time care is not far away but I can't help feeling we're rushing things. Dad knows that he's struggling at times and although we support him, he can't do all the things he wants to do. But I get the feeling he's not ready to let her go yet.
Are we right to promote and encourage f/t care home or the local MH facility or wait until he's ready to accept it. I don't want to force him into a decision that he's not happy with.
I'm fortunate to have two brothers support but our feelings are divided and although we all want the best for M&D, I'm unsure on the timescale.
Quack