My husband is in his own wee world most days for the past 6 weeks and doesn't know me. He is dellusional and I mostly play music on the radio or his ipod, Vintage Tv channel is good and old Open all Hours etc. David Attenborough was bringing lions into the house. When he walks into a corner and gets stuck or walks to far and gets too tired to get back to his chair thats when he shouts my name. I am what ever he thinks I am , the nurse, the carer that works with his suppot worker, the sitter when he wants his Mum late at night. My kids are living in this world too and stroking his back, hand holding, just to reassuring him that we are here. Before this that agitation and shouting swearing was terrible and they are adjusting his medication to help this.
My SIL came round on Saturday and I said "he's in his own wee world, just go with the flow" No, "Hi it's Linda your wee sister, do you remember me? Yes you do" The TV was on and she spoke about the music then said I remember that in South Africa ( we lived there for 3yrs and so did her and her husband, they also worked at the same company) next half hour was "do you remember him? and what was that guys name? do you remember the club we went to? We did this, we did that.
Saturday night I was up with him for 2hrs agitated, just words no meaning at all. This had happened 2 weeks before after her visit he was an hour and a half just the same as this week. I sent a message saying I think she needs to stop talking about S.A. as I think this is causing the agitation at night. Hubby was the same on Wednesday after his brothers visit, up an hour agitated just babbling words. He sleeps about 11hrs a night normally just now with 2 toilet trips but agitated the 3 nights after they visited and it's nothing to do with them
BIL on the phone saying his sister is upset that I think she is upsetting her brother. "I mean what the ****are we supposed to talk about. (Last month he told me his brother should be in a home.) I gave them both a copy of compassionate communication in an email a few months ago and said that they need to take the lead from him as to where the conversation goes. Help
My SIL came round on Saturday and I said "he's in his own wee world, just go with the flow" No, "Hi it's Linda your wee sister, do you remember me? Yes you do" The TV was on and she spoke about the music then said I remember that in South Africa ( we lived there for 3yrs and so did her and her husband, they also worked at the same company) next half hour was "do you remember him? and what was that guys name? do you remember the club we went to? We did this, we did that.
Saturday night I was up with him for 2hrs agitated, just words no meaning at all. This had happened 2 weeks before after her visit he was an hour and a half just the same as this week. I sent a message saying I think she needs to stop talking about S.A. as I think this is causing the agitation at night. Hubby was the same on Wednesday after his brothers visit, up an hour agitated just babbling words. He sleeps about 11hrs a night normally just now with 2 toilet trips but agitated the 3 nights after they visited and it's nothing to do with them
BIL on the phone saying his sister is upset that I think she is upsetting her brother. "I mean what the ****are we supposed to talk about. (Last month he told me his brother should be in a home.) I gave them both a copy of compassionate communication in an email a few months ago and said that they need to take the lead from him as to where the conversation goes. Help