Thanks guys, went in again last night, hardly took any drinks yesterday, just spoons here and there really. Had a couple of spoons off me and it just caused a huge problem, choking and then mucus coming. How can trying to do the right thing turn out so bad? Also, we checked his bottom and hips for bed sores, his bottom is awful, we put more creams on for him, the one on his hip worries me, the bone feels like it's going to pop out of his skin as his skin is so so thin and the hip bone is red raw. Just looks sore and if it develops I believe they can eat into bone, imagine how painful that would be. Day 6 today, already rang and can't get through, start panicking then, I know they have other residents in the nursing home and have to get them ready, breakfast and meds etc. And I know they would call if any problems, but then if they are busy doing other things then they will miss the signs. Stressing myself out. Aaagghhhh stop it.