Dear All
Yet more advice, help needed.
We had got to the point, my mother and I, that she agreed to at least think about respite care for week or two. That was 2 days ago and yesterday. I go into the the hospital today and am greeted by...
Ma: You haven't thought this through have (triumph in voice)
Me: What?
Ma: Who is going to fund this? I'm not....
She will be self financing and, can afford to for a good number of years. Anyway I decided not to confrontational again so tried changing subject. Impossible to do. ANd again she now says that the only place she is going is the flat. I'm afraid I said she had a choice - stay in hospital or go to a wonderful place for respite for a week or two. SHe said she would stay in hospital... free!
Is this all part of the demetia process?
Its not just the money it is the incapacity on her part to follow logical thought patterns/processes. It is like a brick wall that I cannot penetrate. Everything I say bounces off her mind or is contradicted.
Does anyone have any ideas as to how I get through to her that my over riding concern is her well being/safety and that I am not being a perfect pig. Is it worth my while getting her GP (she is in GP bed in community hospital)to talk to her/make her see sense. She doesn't remember anything of her last meeting with the consultant who told her why she was in hospital.
Or, do I give up the unequal struggle and let her get on with her life as she sees it. Come what may. Only other answer is to have her sectioned!!!! How much more guilt would I feel then?
Oh dear.
Thanks
Judy
Yet more advice, help needed.
We had got to the point, my mother and I, that she agreed to at least think about respite care for week or two. That was 2 days ago and yesterday. I go into the the hospital today and am greeted by...
Ma: You haven't thought this through have (triumph in voice)
Me: What?
Ma: Who is going to fund this? I'm not....
She will be self financing and, can afford to for a good number of years. Anyway I decided not to confrontational again so tried changing subject. Impossible to do. ANd again she now says that the only place she is going is the flat. I'm afraid I said she had a choice - stay in hospital or go to a wonderful place for respite for a week or two. SHe said she would stay in hospital... free!
Is this all part of the demetia process?
Its not just the money it is the incapacity on her part to follow logical thought patterns/processes. It is like a brick wall that I cannot penetrate. Everything I say bounces off her mind or is contradicted.
Does anyone have any ideas as to how I get through to her that my over riding concern is her well being/safety and that I am not being a perfect pig. Is it worth my while getting her GP (she is in GP bed in community hospital)to talk to her/make her see sense. She doesn't remember anything of her last meeting with the consultant who told her why she was in hospital.
Or, do I give up the unequal struggle and let her get on with her life as she sees it. Come what may. Only other answer is to have her sectioned!!!! How much more guilt would I feel then?
Oh dear.
Thanks
Judy