I'm very new to this site and thank goodness for this forum so hopefully I can get some help! My mother-in-law was diagnosed with vascular dementia last September and after having 4 weeks of carers going into her home, one night in respite where she refused to go to bed and hit out at the manager she was taken into an assessment unit in October where she has remained (apart from half a day where she went to a care home but was returned to hospital as again she became agitated and showed violent tendancies!) We have been advised she will need nursing care rather than residential care (even though she thinks there's nothing wrong with her) and having visited several homes one in particular thought she would tick some of the boxes for financial assistance for her nursing care. However the local authority say because she has assets over the threshold she will be responsible for the cost of all her care until she drops below it. Whilst we're happy to pay for her care it does seem unfair that she won't be able to get any assistance whatsoever - does anyone have any experience or advice???