Hi
This is my first post so I'm gonna try to explain the situation as best I can..
My mum has had dementia for over 5 years, despite many trips to the GP she has never had a diagnoses as she always refused memory clinic. We were told by GP that they couldn't 'make her go'. Anyway, over the last few years I've tried my best to care for my mum. She is unable to perform daily tasks so relies heavily on me and other family to feed, clean and dress her. She also struggles with communication and doesn't seem to understand what we say.
Over the New Year period she was unwell and was diagnosed with a UTI, she spent 2 nights in hospital and seemed much better coming home, although the nurses did have trouble changing her and communicating with her (she can be quite aggressive).
Now she's back at home she has become completely incontinent, it seems as though she has forgotten what the toilet is and how it works so she wears incontinent underwear. She also is not as steady on her feet so, with the agreement of the GP, we have completely cut off the 1st floor and everything is now on the ground floor level.
The problem we are now experiencing is her aggressive behaviour towards us when her incontinent underwear needs changing. It became almost impossible for me to get near her. She now seems physically fit so, if I try to change her she will bite me, hit me, spit at me and threaten to kill me / stab me. I called social services as this was too hard for me to cope with and they have helped to employ carers to see to her 3 times a day but the carers are really struggling. She adopts the same behaviour with them as well as throwing feaces at them. They are only managing to change her once a day (if they're lucky). This morning I've had a phone call from the carers to say my mum has thrown feaces everywhere and urgently needs cleaning but they can't get near her. I've tried myself this morning and also can't get near her. My question is what do I do now??? The only medication she is on is an antidepressant as that's all the doctors will give me. The GP also finally called the memory clinic to visit my mum but her next appointment isn't until late March!! I've been to the doctors this morning to ask for help, for some kind of sedative but they can't get a doctor round till next week! How do I get someone to help clean her now as I obviously can't leave her that long without cleaning her. Shall I call an ambulance?!? Please help! XxX
This is my first post so I'm gonna try to explain the situation as best I can..
My mum has had dementia for over 5 years, despite many trips to the GP she has never had a diagnoses as she always refused memory clinic. We were told by GP that they couldn't 'make her go'. Anyway, over the last few years I've tried my best to care for my mum. She is unable to perform daily tasks so relies heavily on me and other family to feed, clean and dress her. She also struggles with communication and doesn't seem to understand what we say.
Over the New Year period she was unwell and was diagnosed with a UTI, she spent 2 nights in hospital and seemed much better coming home, although the nurses did have trouble changing her and communicating with her (she can be quite aggressive).
Now she's back at home she has become completely incontinent, it seems as though she has forgotten what the toilet is and how it works so she wears incontinent underwear. She also is not as steady on her feet so, with the agreement of the GP, we have completely cut off the 1st floor and everything is now on the ground floor level.
The problem we are now experiencing is her aggressive behaviour towards us when her incontinent underwear needs changing. It became almost impossible for me to get near her. She now seems physically fit so, if I try to change her she will bite me, hit me, spit at me and threaten to kill me / stab me. I called social services as this was too hard for me to cope with and they have helped to employ carers to see to her 3 times a day but the carers are really struggling. She adopts the same behaviour with them as well as throwing feaces at them. They are only managing to change her once a day (if they're lucky). This morning I've had a phone call from the carers to say my mum has thrown feaces everywhere and urgently needs cleaning but they can't get near her. I've tried myself this morning and also can't get near her. My question is what do I do now??? The only medication she is on is an antidepressant as that's all the doctors will give me. The GP also finally called the memory clinic to visit my mum but her next appointment isn't until late March!! I've been to the doctors this morning to ask for help, for some kind of sedative but they can't get a doctor round till next week! How do I get someone to help clean her now as I obviously can't leave her that long without cleaning her. Shall I call an ambulance?!? Please help! XxX