My partner was diagnosed with Alzheimer's over 7 months ago! Although for some of the time she is absolutely fine there are times when she gets quite confused,agitated etc! One or two members of extended family virtually accused several members of closer family that we were making it up about the memory and confusion and that we were kind of making it worse????? They only seeing my partner for a few hours every week is this how other people's family react?
Unfortunately, the world is full of "experts" who know everything about someone they see now and then, whereas you, and close family members, who see your partner much more frequently, are the only ones who really know how things are.
One "friend" who saw my late husband once in a blue moon, announced "well, he looks
fine to me!", as if the fact that I had shaved him, persuaded him to shower, and he had a clean shirt on, somehow meant that he couldn't have Alzheimer's!
After a while, even though I found myself wanting to strangle people like that, it was easier to just murmur something than to argue. You know what the true situation is, and that's what matters. I wish you well. xxxxx