I agree that the carer is a key person in all of this but I was just saying there are different ways of persuading people to do things and the gentler, kinder, possibly not quite so truthful option is the one I would choose and the one I have found most successful - but that is just my opinion. My post was in response to Bod who was suggesting a radical approach and all guns blazing which in my experience has no chance of working and ends up upsetting everyone including the carer.
My suggesting of a radical approach, was made to leave room for negotation, he may agree to 1 week not 2 and feel he has "won" something.
I've also found that for some people the hard faced truth sometimes works better than shilly shalling around, trying not to upset.
With my own MiL, to get her into respite, I had to be totally truthfull, if her daughter (the Carer) collapased then there would be no choice as to what had to be done. MiL did go, with bad grace, into respite, and enjoyed it!
Only you as carer will have the best idea as to how your person will react.
Some get upset, if they feel they are being treated as a child, and wish to have the decision. Others are happy to have the decision made for them.
The trick is to the get the decision in your favour, by fair means or foul!
Bod