Mum has been suffering with Alzheimers for around 4 years and is still at home with a 4 visit per day care package. Carers prepare & serve meals though her appetite has been very small for some time. Mum had a chest infection a few weeks ago and has gone downhill very quickly since. She is not eating or drinking - the doctor called Rapid Response team who were visiting between care visits each day to encourage fluids but this support finished yesterday. Mum is very sleepy most of the time and is very week now when she tries to get up to use the loo. The antibiotics caused diarrohea so as a precaution we are currently using pads. We have a DNR in place as I know with certainty this is mums wish and the doctor is suggesting that 'pneumonia is the friend of the elderly'and is suggesting that more antibiotics may not be the best plan if she gets another infection. Whilst deep down I think hes right I cant bear to let her suffer. Does anyone know how long or how painful it might be or if palliative care is available in such circumstances. I will of course ask the doctor this but wondered if anyone has faced similar heart wrenching decisions. Thank you