Well. SIL and I went to the CH today to put our concerns to the nurse in charge.
Re Dad's lack of mobility on his return home, she said that when he was being assessed, it was ascertained that he was unable to walk and couldn't get out of the wheelchair. Plus he was very unsteady on his feet when he did stand, so because of the risk of falls, it was decided that he should remain in the wheelchair. As he arrived out of hours and was assessed in the morning, this kind of makes sense, as he always takes time to get going and is at his most unsteady. Plus the fact that he doesn't have great confidence in his own abilities and if asked - can you stand up? he would say no. ( also, understandably, he likes to take the easy option and be pushed. )
Re the tablets, they gave their own paracetamol, which is why I got the box back full. The loperamide (immodium) she said was not given as he was having formed movements and did not always have diarrhea. We told her that this was because it had taken us a long time to get to this point of being able to control the situation to a degree and the doctor had given us license to experiment. That is what I wrote in the note I sent addressed to the nurse in charge. She apologised.
We got the clothes and sundries back fine and left on a reasonable note. The way she explained it did make sense and she apologised for the oversight with the meds. The fact is that she was following the written guidelines and I was using it in an unorthodox way (on the say so of the doctor).
Anyhoo. Dad is walking around the house again, but still finding it difficult to get to his feet in the morning, so we are having to heave him (he is 10 and a 1/2 stone) into the wheelchair. Once he gets to the bathroom, he can usually stand, as the chair is higher than the bed and he can push from the arms. One more day of this as the hoist is due tomorrow xx