A huge hello to you all.
I am a "newbie" but in need of friendly help and support.
My Dad is 73 years of age. He is a very proud man, "old school" values and morals, with a huge heart, respectful and kind. He has had a huge amount to contend with in his life, having lost his Mum and Dad when he was 21, losing two children at birth, myself with a terrible skin condition, just to name a few.
Dad has always been a drinker, but, over the past three months, this is out of control. I think the catalyst for what is happening now is Dad developed sepsis in his toe. He went from being such an outgoing person, walking or riding his bike to local shops every day, talking normally, engaging in conversations, cooking his breakfast etc, to now, admitting he has given up.
He went through a major trauma with the sepsis, having had to have his toe nail and nail bed removed in an Outpatient Department to save his life. The sepsis returned so he was admitted to hospital for IV antibiotics. When he came home, he and Mum were informed their Landlord wanted his house back so they are now forced to move, yet again. All of this has been over a period of three months.
So, now, Dad has not brushed his hair, washed, shaved, been out much, is heavily reliant on alcohol, talks to himself, is losing bank cards or pin numbers, is verbally abusive to Mum and I and sits and cries. He reverts back to the "good old days" but cannot remember something I told him moments earlier. He continually repeats he has had enough and wants to die, although admits he will not kill himself but let nature take its toll! He wont eat, sleep or take his BP medication either.
I called 111 last weekend and was speaking with an advisor who was lovely. He was a paramedic and explained that paramedics would come out and assess Dad if I could not get him to A & E. However, as I was not able to stay with Mum, she was terrified of the repercussions once the medics left, so had to leave it. I saw Dad's GP yesterday who basically advised he cannot help unless Dad asks for help. Even when I mentioned Korsakoff's Syndrome and Dementia, I was still advised nothing could be done.
My poor Mum works full time, is trying to pack up a house and is scared of my Dad the way he is at the moment. He will not let me pack, as cries when the parcel tape reel is used, and keeps shouting "leave me alone".
This morning, I had really had enough. I told him I was going to get a doctor out to him. After much verbal abuse, with an angry, distorted face, he advised if I did get someone out, he would tell them exactly what they wanted to hear - "I am moving home, it is stressful, my daughter has wasted your time", and then the repercussions for Mum.
If anyone can offer any help or advice I would be most grateful, as I cannot bear to see my Dad like this, am worried for my Mum and we both really do not know what we are dealing with.
Thank you so much.
I am a "newbie" but in need of friendly help and support.
My Dad is 73 years of age. He is a very proud man, "old school" values and morals, with a huge heart, respectful and kind. He has had a huge amount to contend with in his life, having lost his Mum and Dad when he was 21, losing two children at birth, myself with a terrible skin condition, just to name a few.
Dad has always been a drinker, but, over the past three months, this is out of control. I think the catalyst for what is happening now is Dad developed sepsis in his toe. He went from being such an outgoing person, walking or riding his bike to local shops every day, talking normally, engaging in conversations, cooking his breakfast etc, to now, admitting he has given up.
He went through a major trauma with the sepsis, having had to have his toe nail and nail bed removed in an Outpatient Department to save his life. The sepsis returned so he was admitted to hospital for IV antibiotics. When he came home, he and Mum were informed their Landlord wanted his house back so they are now forced to move, yet again. All of this has been over a period of three months.
So, now, Dad has not brushed his hair, washed, shaved, been out much, is heavily reliant on alcohol, talks to himself, is losing bank cards or pin numbers, is verbally abusive to Mum and I and sits and cries. He reverts back to the "good old days" but cannot remember something I told him moments earlier. He continually repeats he has had enough and wants to die, although admits he will not kill himself but let nature take its toll! He wont eat, sleep or take his BP medication either.
I called 111 last weekend and was speaking with an advisor who was lovely. He was a paramedic and explained that paramedics would come out and assess Dad if I could not get him to A & E. However, as I was not able to stay with Mum, she was terrified of the repercussions once the medics left, so had to leave it. I saw Dad's GP yesterday who basically advised he cannot help unless Dad asks for help. Even when I mentioned Korsakoff's Syndrome and Dementia, I was still advised nothing could be done.
My poor Mum works full time, is trying to pack up a house and is scared of my Dad the way he is at the moment. He will not let me pack, as cries when the parcel tape reel is used, and keeps shouting "leave me alone".
This morning, I had really had enough. I told him I was going to get a doctor out to him. After much verbal abuse, with an angry, distorted face, he advised if I did get someone out, he would tell them exactly what they wanted to hear - "I am moving home, it is stressful, my daughter has wasted your time", and then the repercussions for Mum.
If anyone can offer any help or advice I would be most grateful, as I cannot bear to see my Dad like this, am worried for my Mum and we both really do not know what we are dealing with.
Thank you so much.