Hello all
I am really after some advice regarding my partners Gran (who i call Gran also) shes been diagnosed with Alzheimer's over a year ago. Gran is 86 used to live on her own, she is also registered blind (partly sited) Gran has been on her own for years, and was doing well with regular carers going in 3 times a day to make sure she was eating and to give her, her medications. Unfortunately over the last few months she stopped eating and become very depressed and down. a month or so a go she has a nervous breakdown said she didn't want to be here anymore and she wanted to die (all part of the depression she was suffering from, and very upsetting for us) now she didnt want to be on her own from then and, and didnt feel safe, so we got in touch with social services for emergency rest bite, which we managed to find for the next day which was great news. While at the residential home Gran was assessed and told she needed 24/7 care and we were asked to top up a monthly amount of £150 which Gran could afford from her pension small amount of savings and so on. which we were fine with after this Gran become a permanent resident and the home asked that we top up £180 a month (from her family) as her income will be going straight into pay for the place. This would be a stuggle but if her family clubbed together, we could do it. now we have been asked to top up the rest bite by a further £62 a week on top of the £150 Gran has to pay and instead of the £180 a month we agreed to pay we will have to pay £62 a week. Unfortunately none of us are in the position to pay this but the last thing we want is for Gran to be moved and she has settled very well likes being there. We are also worried as this isnt a particularly "posh" place so if we cant afford this i don't think there is much we can?
My question is where do we go from here? what can we do? who can we ask? its very hard getting information and we are just worried for Gran.
PS i would also like to point out where she is now is 5 minutes down the road from her Daughter and Grandchildren where she used to live was 30-40 minutes away. so its much better for her and everyone involved.
I am really after some advice regarding my partners Gran (who i call Gran also) shes been diagnosed with Alzheimer's over a year ago. Gran is 86 used to live on her own, she is also registered blind (partly sited) Gran has been on her own for years, and was doing well with regular carers going in 3 times a day to make sure she was eating and to give her, her medications. Unfortunately over the last few months she stopped eating and become very depressed and down. a month or so a go she has a nervous breakdown said she didn't want to be here anymore and she wanted to die (all part of the depression she was suffering from, and very upsetting for us) now she didnt want to be on her own from then and, and didnt feel safe, so we got in touch with social services for emergency rest bite, which we managed to find for the next day which was great news. While at the residential home Gran was assessed and told she needed 24/7 care and we were asked to top up a monthly amount of £150 which Gran could afford from her pension small amount of savings and so on. which we were fine with after this Gran become a permanent resident and the home asked that we top up £180 a month (from her family) as her income will be going straight into pay for the place. This would be a stuggle but if her family clubbed together, we could do it. now we have been asked to top up the rest bite by a further £62 a week on top of the £150 Gran has to pay and instead of the £180 a month we agreed to pay we will have to pay £62 a week. Unfortunately none of us are in the position to pay this but the last thing we want is for Gran to be moved and she has settled very well likes being there. We are also worried as this isnt a particularly "posh" place so if we cant afford this i don't think there is much we can?
My question is where do we go from here? what can we do? who can we ask? its very hard getting information and we are just worried for Gran.
PS i would also like to point out where she is now is 5 minutes down the road from her Daughter and Grandchildren where she used to live was 30-40 minutes away. so its much better for her and everyone involved.