I don't know what to say to you except I send you my love and my understanding only because I have worked in a care home and understand the difficulty of dealing with incontinence. My husband is incontinent sometimes and that is bad enough. My iove to you.xxxxxWell, just had the usual major pre bed clean up.
The problem is, my OH's mobility is now so poor and he has so little control that by the time he gets up to transfer from chair to commode it's too late. We have a 'Turner' and he can pull himself upright pretty well but to go from upright to sitting is a major difficulty, he just hasn't got the confidence to lower himself down. The whole process can take 10 to 15 minutes with him nearly getting there and then pulling himself up again and having to start over. Then often he's awake at 0600 obsessively using his bottle, and trying to get out of bed although he has almost no control over unrinating and doesn't know why he's trying to get up.
I'm getting exhausted and would welcome any suggestions. Don't see how having carers in would help as they wouldn't be here this time of night. He sleeps a lot during the day and only seems to wake up towards evening so we tend to be quite late to bed then the clean up and actually getting him into bed takes a minimum of an hour, tonight at least an hour and a half.
Just one thing I found on the subject of incontinence. As hubs became truly immobile I found all in ones easier to use than pull ups. But these I have to buy. Pads became completely useless and pull ups just got tangled.
I found the same with pull ups. They do rip off at the sides but that just caused an added problem. When I took them off my husband I then had to get trousers and shoes off him to put another pair on. Luckily our continence service supply the Tena flex all in ones. My argument with them is the absorbency they will provide. As they supply a basic number I buy the extra as what they supply does not see him through the night.
Hi everyone, goodness I have so much good information here. Thanks so much.
Sorry I haven't posted before now. Sleepless advised on how disruptive the building process is, and she was quite right. So very busy yesterday and today. Builders are very nice though and I have had a better day with Nick today. No difficult clean ups as yet and they are keeping the toilet available so I can empty the commode. 2 days down and eight to go! Fortunately there is a sink in the cellar which I can use for rising through clothes - not ideal but at least an alternative to the kitchen sink
I was able to talk to the OT on the phone today and she is visiting tomorrow.
So grateful to you all for your kindness, advice and concern.
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