NO DEMENTIA INVOLVED- just cant think of anywhere else to ask.
My bro ( 52) has had a stroke. I only found out because a cousin texted sympathy.
Apparently my cousin received a email tell of this stroke, with explicit ''do not tell Jess''
There is no major fallout between bro and I
Sister in law and I really don't gel, never have done following a fall out she and my father had, which has just raised its ugly head again as my late fathers executor.
Being courteous, we rang the ward ( we think 10 days after this stroke- we are really not sure when it happened) and asked to speak to bro. he came on the phone, and said she wouldn't be happy if we visited.
After discussion with bro and with ward staff, they agreed to facilitate an out of hours visit. He was genuinely happy to see us and the visit went well.
Wifey arrives at visiting time.....blows her stack!
We rang a couple of days later and staff nurse informed us that she'd h to speak to his wife
From there on in ( a further 4 weeks) bro has refused to even speak to us on the phone.
Getting too long winded so will bullet point!
He doesn't have his mobile phone- its lost ( she told him, yet if you ring it she answers- have tried from a random number she doesn't know)
He doesn't have his laptop.
probably most worrying is a comment she has made on Fbook ( again, not easy for us to see, looking via a friend. ''After 23 years of me praying T has finally taken Jesus into his heart'' ( she Is a vocal modern christian *Polite term* ) he always said he just let her get on with it.
we dont have much in the way of mutual friends, one has mentioned to my OH, ''do you know about the emails?'' Not sure what *emails* are being refered to here. I have only send s-in-law one, which basically said its time to get over it and move on for brothers sake, (a letter that I would be more than happy for anyone to read, nothing nasty whatsoever)
Where do we go from here?
Does anyone else hear alarm bells or am I over reacting? Be honest please
Edit:
he held down a full time job until he had the stroke
its left him In a wheelchair with little in the way of sight.(tunnel vision)
My bro ( 52) has had a stroke. I only found out because a cousin texted sympathy.
Apparently my cousin received a email tell of this stroke, with explicit ''do not tell Jess''
There is no major fallout between bro and I
Sister in law and I really don't gel, never have done following a fall out she and my father had, which has just raised its ugly head again as my late fathers executor.
Being courteous, we rang the ward ( we think 10 days after this stroke- we are really not sure when it happened) and asked to speak to bro. he came on the phone, and said she wouldn't be happy if we visited.
After discussion with bro and with ward staff, they agreed to facilitate an out of hours visit. He was genuinely happy to see us and the visit went well.
Wifey arrives at visiting time.....blows her stack!
We rang a couple of days later and staff nurse informed us that she'd h to speak to his wife
From there on in ( a further 4 weeks) bro has refused to even speak to us on the phone.
Getting too long winded so will bullet point!
He doesn't have his mobile phone- its lost ( she told him, yet if you ring it she answers- have tried from a random number she doesn't know)
He doesn't have his laptop.
probably most worrying is a comment she has made on Fbook ( again, not easy for us to see, looking via a friend. ''After 23 years of me praying T has finally taken Jesus into his heart'' ( she Is a vocal modern christian *Polite term* ) he always said he just let her get on with it.
we dont have much in the way of mutual friends, one has mentioned to my OH, ''do you know about the emails?'' Not sure what *emails* are being refered to here. I have only send s-in-law one, which basically said its time to get over it and move on for brothers sake, (a letter that I would be more than happy for anyone to read, nothing nasty whatsoever)
Where do we go from here?
Does anyone else hear alarm bells or am I over reacting? Be honest please
Edit:
he held down a full time job until he had the stroke
its left him In a wheelchair with little in the way of sight.(tunnel vision)
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