My wife has been in a home for six years . She now has no concept of anything at all but seems happy. Have I done my job? Can I see to myself now and move on? I am 73 and would like a new full relationship before I die. Am I asking too much.? Guilt. Guilt. Guilt.
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Don't feel guilty, I'm sure your wife wouldn't want you to be alone and unhappy.
Like Mindy, JigJog and Jinx, my husband is still with me at home, and I hope it continues for a long time, but, one never knows what tomorrow brings. Like your wife, he doesn't comprehend much, but is happy in himself.
We did have a chat. long before the dementia arrived, and both said to each other, if anything occurred (like it has now) we would want the other one to find a new life and happiness. We didn't want each other to be lonely and miserable. He was quite specific on that point, and would have been appalled at what I have to do for him now. It was always, don't lift that or don't do that, I will do it.
So go and join local clubs, bowls, take up cycling, go on coach trips, etc. Meet new people, you are still young, you have to get out there to see what the world has to offer.
I wish you all the best, and we would all like to know how you get on. Good Luck