Mum always had a strip wash every day, towards the end it would exhaust her but wouldn't accept any help from anyone. The only exception to the hands off rule was having her feet washed when the district nurse was due to call, and whenever she went into hospital she would let the nurses give her a shower . When she went into the CH she agreed to a shower on occasions, but there were only certain people who were granted this privilege and she continued having her strip wash in her room every morning. When she was still at home we got a hairdresser to come and do a wash and blow dry every couple of weeks, and I was permitted to do it for her in between visits, but had to get her in the right frame of mind - usual ritual was a cup of tea and a cake, then she would let me wash her hair, roll it up , then spend ages making sure it was dry, then we would do her nails or sort her gloves and scarves drawer out and I'd end up staying and making dinner for us both - then she could have the fun of telling the teatime carer to get lost if I didn't get to the door first .