Hi everyone. My 90 year old mum was separated from my 99 yr old dad after 71 years of marriage 3 weeks ago, as her dementia worsened and she had to leave the home they had been in together for 5 months. My siblings and I have visited her, she is being well cared for but is totally confused and very unhappy. She has no idea at all where she is. She looks frail and ill. After a lot of deliberation we decided to take dad to see her. We knew it could possibly be disastrous and upsetting for both of them but we decided to try to see how it went. Well my mum was terribly distressed, she cried the whole time, she recognised dad but couldn't really hold a conversation with him (my dad is brilliant for 99, physically well, just bad short term memory), he was shocked at how much she has deteriorated. She kept saying how unhappy she was. We did our best to comfort her, told her dad was only down the road and we were all visiting as much as we could but she seems to be at the stage where nothing will comfort her. My dad has said he is not sure about going again. He is very happy in the home he is in which is perfect for him and they all love him there.
So, it's so bloody sad and there is nothing to be done. She is being treated for depression and pain etc (she had shingles). I only hope the poor woman passes away soon for her sake.
You know that feeling where you wake in the morning and for a few split seconds everything seems fine with the world and then reality hits you? I just feel so low with it all.
Thanks for listening x
So, it's so bloody sad and there is nothing to be done. She is being treated for depression and pain etc (she had shingles). I only hope the poor woman passes away soon for her sake.
You know that feeling where you wake in the morning and for a few split seconds everything seems fine with the world and then reality hits you? I just feel so low with it all.
Thanks for listening x