I am new to this whole thing but feel lost and need some support , my dad has Alzheimer's diagnosis for 15 months and has started to change more in last week or so , word finding difficult and tonight drove short drive to my house but I was out so asked neighbour how to drive as not sure how to use pedals ! So hard as had brought me some flowers and still thinks nothing wrong with him . My mam and him constantly at logger heads making me feel like piggy in middle
Hi!
My dad has dementia. In my experience of being his carer for past 3 years.. (admittedly people progress differently ) when things deteriorate they generally are obvious and kind of..where you notice somethings changed.
The important things is that everyones aware if it..because if those around you arent aware..youre in your own..
As soon as my dad had a diagnosis as his concentration goes the dvla stopped his licence!..that was and still is a humongous issue for him..
My mum was in denial first then they swapped and my dad was amazing he helped others and dealt with it heads on.
Not any more!..as he gets worse hes fighting it all the way..even telling himself hes got very early onset!..thats the sad bit..going from being honest and accepting but now fights every little feeling or incident.
I always get him checked out if he seems worse or unwell. Thats important because we all get ill..dementia or not. So far its been progression.
Im so relieved hes not driving even though he relies on me and use the vehicle handbook as a lecture!.the thought of him killing someone and himself was too much.
I told him id rather him not speak to me and be alive than be dead!
Weve progressed to aggitated verbal outbreaks now....ive read every fact sheet done any course i can..to prepare me and keep me informed. Its paramount as its hard enough when it happens when you know its coming. ...
Its important you look after yourself..your loved ones journey is happening whether your there or not..and if we dont think of ourselves we ll be ill ourselves.
You know your loved one best..if you want help ask for it..make your voice heard..
Best wishes
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