Two of Mums sisters are going on holiday back to Scotland for a month in August.
One of her sisters rings her every week to 10 days, the other sister Mum maybe hears from once a month. Mum will ocassionally ring them, if she has remembered something important to tell.
I have already told Mums sisters not to tell her that they are going.
They went 3 yrs ago round about the time time of Mums decline with dementia, and what an uproar that caused, for excluding her ( never mind the fact that she had no passport, money to travel or health at that time)
This time it would cause Mum more upset, confusion, and agitation. Beleive you me its not something that she would forget either.
So I can explain one sisters absence for a month but not two, if Mum takes it into her head to ring them.
My plan so far is for the sister that rings often to call her the day before she flies out, but drop into the conversation that her and her husband are going on holiday but locally.
Mum would accept that.
Then maybe 2 weeks in, round about the time that Mums sister would call, I would tell Mum that her sister rang when she was out, but called to say Goodbye, and will be back in 2 weeks time.
I only hope that Mum doesn't start calling her other sister, wondering why she can never get her in?
Does this sound the best idea? Given the cost of phoning from another country on a mobile they are not likely to ring Mum to pretend they are still at home.
This is one aspect of AD I hate the most. Telling lies and deceipt.
I know they have been mentioned as love lies, but this is a pretense I have to keep up for a whole month
One of her sisters rings her every week to 10 days, the other sister Mum maybe hears from once a month. Mum will ocassionally ring them, if she has remembered something important to tell.
I have already told Mums sisters not to tell her that they are going.
They went 3 yrs ago round about the time time of Mums decline with dementia, and what an uproar that caused, for excluding her ( never mind the fact that she had no passport, money to travel or health at that time)
This time it would cause Mum more upset, confusion, and agitation. Beleive you me its not something that she would forget either.
So I can explain one sisters absence for a month but not two, if Mum takes it into her head to ring them.
My plan so far is for the sister that rings often to call her the day before she flies out, but drop into the conversation that her and her husband are going on holiday but locally.
Mum would accept that.
Then maybe 2 weeks in, round about the time that Mums sister would call, I would tell Mum that her sister rang when she was out, but called to say Goodbye, and will be back in 2 weeks time.
I only hope that Mum doesn't start calling her other sister, wondering why she can never get her in?
Does this sound the best idea? Given the cost of phoning from another country on a mobile they are not likely to ring Mum to pretend they are still at home.
This is one aspect of AD I hate the most. Telling lies and deceipt.
I know they have been mentioned as love lies, but this is a pretense I have to keep up for a whole month
