DRIVING-
I think that driving must be a big problem for all of us (or at least carers caring for once strong men). My husband has continued to drive (most probably too long) He passed a grueling test three years ago and so I had to let him drive. At Christmas, he hit a bicyclist, but nothing came of it. She was partly at fault by her own admission. But his driving has declined, but of course he doesn't see his own condition.
So, I sold the cars and have not replaced them. He is, of course, furious with me.
I have been using public transportation. (we live in Basel Switzerland so it is possible to get around) My family thinks I should get a car. But if I did i would have to battle him. I am exhausted and no energy to battle all this any longer.
Today my dear friend, brought him home from a walk (she and her husband sweetly take him for me on Thursdays) Today they dropped off their second car for me to use for a few days. She told him she does not want him to drive her car, that their insurance will not allow it. He started acting very passive aggressive about things. After he started accusing me of calling the insurance company and making trouble for him. It is all my fault that he could not drive her car. So, I had had enough, I called her and told her to tell him again. He told her he knew it was not her fault just a misunderstanding. But he was all anxious and upset, But he is not capable of organizing a new car or even organizing to take the driving test again. That is what he says he is going to do...but I know that is not going to happen. If it does I will eat my hat.
I was diagnosed with CML-chronic myeloid leukemia in March. I am fine with the treatments. Doing well. But I continue to feel incredibly trapped by HIS disease which is so incredibly hopeless. I know 'this too shall pass' and I know it will not get easier.