My Mum is slowly losing the Ability to swallow
Was visiting my mum yesterday(and i had been told prevously she had took about 10 mins to get her tablets swallowed and the dr upped her antidepressents as her mood is low and she is eating and drinking very little) and she got given her tablets and it did take a fair bit of time for them to go voer and one just melted on her tongue and anyway my mum and i are sitting and i see our gp come in and so a member of staff,gp and my mum and i go to her room, dr chcked her out, taps on her back, asks mum to take deep breathes, puts his stephoscope on,a sks her a couple of questions and turns to me and says "you know she is getting frailer" and i said i knew and he said their is nothing more he can do(from a dr pov i guess) he is taking her off her dementia tablet and keeping her on her anti depressent so see how that goes when the higher dose kicks in and i asked him "Is my mum dying?" and replied in the "Eeverybody is dying" kinda answer which i took the wrong way in a sense and says all can be doe now is too make her as comfortable as can be... as he said if not eating alot and losing weight, body is more subsceptible to infections....and how my mum is at the moment it could acclerate what is alrwdy happen, could be 6 days, 6 months, 6 years, said about a wife who he knew who he thougth was about to die and she is still walking around 18 months later, so it's one day at a time now really.
I went and spoke to the nurse and said what i got told from the dr was totally heartbreaking and i said what he said and the nurse said they look at it from a different pov as the dr is from a clinical pov, says as long as it takes for my mum to finish a meal the staff are very paitient and will prompt and encourage her.
I'm rambleing here sorry, i nearly started crying in the nurses office and broke down when i got home.
So, no it's not good news whatsoever.
Was visiting my mum yesterday(and i had been told prevously she had took about 10 mins to get her tablets swallowed and the dr upped her antidepressents as her mood is low and she is eating and drinking very little) and she got given her tablets and it did take a fair bit of time for them to go voer and one just melted on her tongue and anyway my mum and i are sitting and i see our gp come in and so a member of staff,gp and my mum and i go to her room, dr chcked her out, taps on her back, asks mum to take deep breathes, puts his stephoscope on,a sks her a couple of questions and turns to me and says "you know she is getting frailer" and i said i knew and he said their is nothing more he can do(from a dr pov i guess) he is taking her off her dementia tablet and keeping her on her anti depressent so see how that goes when the higher dose kicks in and i asked him "Is my mum dying?" and replied in the "Eeverybody is dying" kinda answer which i took the wrong way in a sense and says all can be doe now is too make her as comfortable as can be... as he said if not eating alot and losing weight, body is more subsceptible to infections....and how my mum is at the moment it could acclerate what is alrwdy happen, could be 6 days, 6 months, 6 years, said about a wife who he knew who he thougth was about to die and she is still walking around 18 months later, so it's one day at a time now really.
I went and spoke to the nurse and said what i got told from the dr was totally heartbreaking and i said what he said and the nurse said they look at it from a different pov as the dr is from a clinical pov, says as long as it takes for my mum to finish a meal the staff are very paitient and will prompt and encourage her.
I'm rambleing here sorry, i nearly started crying in the nurses office and broke down when i got home.
So, no it's not good news whatsoever.
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