Sometimes I feel all alone.
Mil was diagnosed recently with VD and Alz although it's been apparent to us for a while. My problem is..my husband!
I have managed to deal with the diagnosis, muddling my way through my job, my 10 year old and organising a carer, appointments at the memory clinic, social services etc etc. My husband however is not dealing with it well at all.
During the week the carer comes in for a few hours a day and keeps mil company and does any jobs that need doing. I do evening meal, medication and anything else that needs doing.
At the weekend it's up to me and hubby to do everything. I'm fine with this and have been very patient with her, but my hubby doesn't know how to deal with her. He can be very abrupt and downright rude to her.
Today I had to spend 10 mins calming her down as she was beside herself upset with something he said. She feels like a burden and he's not helping. She has really good days, but also very bad days, today being one of the bad. He just can't deal with it and I'm the one picking up the pieces
Then he snapped at me in front of her and my 10 year old. I've been fighting back the tears ever since.
I know that he cares for her a lot and he reacts this way because he feels he has no control, but I'm the one dealing with the aftermath.
Sorry, not looking for advice really, just needed to vent
Mil was diagnosed recently with VD and Alz although it's been apparent to us for a while. My problem is..my husband!
I have managed to deal with the diagnosis, muddling my way through my job, my 10 year old and organising a carer, appointments at the memory clinic, social services etc etc. My husband however is not dealing with it well at all.
During the week the carer comes in for a few hours a day and keeps mil company and does any jobs that need doing. I do evening meal, medication and anything else that needs doing.
At the weekend it's up to me and hubby to do everything. I'm fine with this and have been very patient with her, but my hubby doesn't know how to deal with her. He can be very abrupt and downright rude to her.
Today I had to spend 10 mins calming her down as she was beside herself upset with something he said. She feels like a burden and he's not helping. She has really good days, but also very bad days, today being one of the bad. He just can't deal with it and I'm the one picking up the pieces
Then he snapped at me in front of her and my 10 year old. I've been fighting back the tears ever since.
I know that he cares for her a lot and he reacts this way because he feels he has no control, but I'm the one dealing with the aftermath.
Sorry, not looking for advice really, just needed to vent