jojost wrote:
Hi Loo
Thank you for replying to my post. I really appreciate your honesty. It is comforting to know John is not alone in his difficult behaviour. How did you manage to get him into the care home? I am dreading this day!
Sorry jojost for not responding earlier. My husband fell and fractured his hip and was in two acute hospitals over 6 weeks. Then he was in the Community hospital for months. He had to use a zimmer but would forget to do so and was high risk of falls. Then he was critically ill when his diabetes was not properly controlled. His dementia had rapidly progressed in hospitals, including severe incontinence.
Anyway, I had expected him to come home but this was ruled out, and I was devastated. So he eventually went from hospital to care home.
In retrospect perhaps it was best as I was told by our GP that even without the fall and consequences he would probably have had to go into a care home within a year.
I say perhaps it was for the best the way it happened because he would have fiercely resisted leaving his own home for a care home. It would have been dreadful for him and I cannot think how that would have been achieved. He still had considerable awareness in certain respects and it took him many months of heart breaking anguish before he forgot his home and settled in the care home.
Long reply to a short question, sorry!
However social services are coming to assess us at the end of may . he says he will have nothing to do with it.
Do let us know how that goes? With your husband’s attitude so similar to that of my husband’s it wont be an easy time.
Thinking of you
Loo xx