Interested person

[Rosie2]

I have now found out how important LPA health and welfare is.
I am now classed as an interested party and a such entitled to minimum paperwork.
Nearly 50 years of marriage counts for nothing. Interested party? What! Is that all I am. How I resent that.
I have a constant level of anxiety and feel I no longer have any input into my husband's life.
Dementia strips away everything one holds dear.
Make sure you get Health and Welfare.

 

[esmeralda]

Thanks for that Rosie, although I was anxious to get the financial LPA I hadn't thought of doing this one but I'll definitely have a careful look at it. I'm very sorry you are having such a stressful and anxious time. It's a source of constant amazement to me that carers are expected to do so much but are given little information or influence on decisions about people who we are the experts on. It must be so distressing for you.
I'm not sure if or how you have to prove that the donor has capacity though. My husband's problems are mainly with the executive function of the brain and physical incapacity, but he does still have understanding.

 

[Rosie2]

Thanks for that Rosie, although I was anxious to get the financial LPA I hadn't thought of doing this one but I'll definitely have a careful look at it. I'm not sure if or how you have to prove that the donor has capacity though. My husband's problems are mainly with the executive function of the brain and physical incapacity, but he does still have understanding.

I too was anxious about financial stuff and didn't think at all about H&W. Big mistake.
If your husband can still understand I would say do not delay.

 

[truth24]

Did both for Fred at the same time and plan to do the same for me soon.

 

[stanleypj]

Rosie, I understand your feelings. This has been discussed before on TP and two points are worth bearing in mind:

1) People sometimes find that they are not consulted and kept informed even though they have the H & W LPA.

2) There is an expectation (I think a document has been quoted) that medics consult and discuss things with close relatives regardless.

I'll see if I can track down the threads.

I realise you're not satisfied wit the level of consultation otherwise you wouldn't be feeling like this. In what ways are your wishes being ignored?

 

[stanleypj]

This thread covers a lot of the issues around the POA for Health and Welfare and includes a quote from the document (about the Mental Health Act) that I was recalling.