This is my first post and as my title says I am struggling and finding it hard to cope with my MIL.
My MIL is a very difficult and stubborn person. Over the last 18 months to 2 years myself and my husband have noticed that her short term memory is getting worse, she can't remember a phone conversation 2 hours previous, is making things up (people trying to break in, large sums money from 20 years ago that doesn't exist, visiting a new 1 bed bungalow council property but telling us its a 4 bed victorian house, getting verbally abusive, confused and she doesn't know what day, month or year we are in.
To make matters worse she has very poor mobility but has told the council she can look after herself and is mobile. My husband does an online shop for her weekly, any clothes, electrical and books are all ordered online.
She is also diabetic type 2 and is on insulin she's not eating properly and still injects thinking this will make her sugars higher and its ok to live off pot noodles, bread and microwave meals. I am diabetic and know that her care is very poor and she will not listen to me, her sugars have been dangerously low and she tried to inject herself rather than have lucozade and eat something, I'm scared she will go into a hypoglycaemic coma.
My MIL has not showered in years, her house smells and she is becoming incontinent. We have just moved her into a smaller property and found dog excrement all over the house and urine soaked carpet as well as piles of rubbish all over the house.
Its just myself and my husband, my MIL plays the guilt trip and then when we do things for her its never enough. DH was out until 10;30 last night as the boiler is broken, he found she had no food, her excuse was to say she couldn't deal with the food shop as the boiler wasn't working. She also refuses to contact anyone but DH and expects him to do everything, sort out the boiler, phone up about her bank account (we don't have POA) change her to a new GP.
Tenancy support are suppose to be going out to do a assessment on her but we need some one to basically check on her daily and make sure she's not fallen over again.
We're at the point where we can't take much more both our children are stressed as we can have up to 6 phone calls a day and at least one will last nearly 2 hours. Its like having a third child that lives 40 minutes away. We have contacted her GP and they were useless telling us unless she asks for help they can't do anything, she will never ask for help.
Where do we go, what can we do?? The biggest problem is that she makes out to everyone she fine and can cope and for that quick 5 min chat one the phone or chat at the doorstep she looks to be ok. She has no contact with the outside world other than my DH.
Sorry to rant
Dog Lady
My MIL is a very difficult and stubborn person. Over the last 18 months to 2 years myself and my husband have noticed that her short term memory is getting worse, she can't remember a phone conversation 2 hours previous, is making things up (people trying to break in, large sums money from 20 years ago that doesn't exist, visiting a new 1 bed bungalow council property but telling us its a 4 bed victorian house, getting verbally abusive, confused and she doesn't know what day, month or year we are in.
To make matters worse she has very poor mobility but has told the council she can look after herself and is mobile. My husband does an online shop for her weekly, any clothes, electrical and books are all ordered online.
She is also diabetic type 2 and is on insulin she's not eating properly and still injects thinking this will make her sugars higher and its ok to live off pot noodles, bread and microwave meals. I am diabetic and know that her care is very poor and she will not listen to me, her sugars have been dangerously low and she tried to inject herself rather than have lucozade and eat something, I'm scared she will go into a hypoglycaemic coma.
My MIL has not showered in years, her house smells and she is becoming incontinent. We have just moved her into a smaller property and found dog excrement all over the house and urine soaked carpet as well as piles of rubbish all over the house.
Its just myself and my husband, my MIL plays the guilt trip and then when we do things for her its never enough. DH was out until 10;30 last night as the boiler is broken, he found she had no food, her excuse was to say she couldn't deal with the food shop as the boiler wasn't working. She also refuses to contact anyone but DH and expects him to do everything, sort out the boiler, phone up about her bank account (we don't have POA) change her to a new GP.
Tenancy support are suppose to be going out to do a assessment on her but we need some one to basically check on her daily and make sure she's not fallen over again.
We're at the point where we can't take much more both our children are stressed as we can have up to 6 phone calls a day and at least one will last nearly 2 hours. Its like having a third child that lives 40 minutes away. We have contacted her GP and they were useless telling us unless she asks for help they can't do anything, she will never ask for help.
Where do we go, what can we do?? The biggest problem is that she makes out to everyone she fine and can cope and for that quick 5 min chat one the phone or chat at the doorstep she looks to be ok. She has no contact with the outside world other than my DH.
Sorry to rant
Dog Lady