Morning all,
I've had a sleepless night, kept awake by guilt because I shouted at my MIL last night. She generally is very mistrusting, and only tends to believe her version of events which are always complete fantasy and wildly inaccurate. She can't seem to distinguish dreams from reality.
Yet with some things she's as sharp as a pin! If you go shopping for instance, and buy cream cakes, she'll remember that they're in the fridge the next day and ask for one. But she can't/won't remember that her Son in Law died last year (we took her to his Funeral as we thought it might help her to understand) and keeps asking how he is.
It's breaking her Daughters heart.
MIL explains that she doesn't want it to be true so refuses to believe it.
Boiling point came last night when she asked how he was for the 20th time. I explained that he'd died. She said, yes I know, but how is he?
Most of the time I can cope with the vastly confusing world of Dementia, I've been doing it for 3 years now, but last night I lost my temper and ended up very upset and guilty. I shouted that he was bloody dead and begged her to remember and not ask again. She replied back that she doesn't want to believe it's true, so won't.
So, I'm sat having a coffee, contemplating getting MIL out of bed and what to say to her. You see, she will remember that I shouted last night and she will be very moody with me, but will block out the reason why.
Is it possible to have selective dementia? (Hers is VaD caused by a Stroke.) Is it possible that she still has enough cognition to select what goes in and what doesn't? I don't know, but it certainly seems that way to me.
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I've had a sleepless night, kept awake by guilt because I shouted at my MIL last night. She generally is very mistrusting, and only tends to believe her version of events which are always complete fantasy and wildly inaccurate. She can't seem to distinguish dreams from reality.
Yet with some things she's as sharp as a pin! If you go shopping for instance, and buy cream cakes, she'll remember that they're in the fridge the next day and ask for one. But she can't/won't remember that her Son in Law died last year (we took her to his Funeral as we thought it might help her to understand) and keeps asking how he is.
It's breaking her Daughters heart.
MIL explains that she doesn't want it to be true so refuses to believe it.
Boiling point came last night when she asked how he was for the 20th time. I explained that he'd died. She said, yes I know, but how is he?
Most of the time I can cope with the vastly confusing world of Dementia, I've been doing it for 3 years now, but last night I lost my temper and ended up very upset and guilty. I shouted that he was bloody dead and begged her to remember and not ask again. She replied back that she doesn't want to believe it's true, so won't.
So, I'm sat having a coffee, contemplating getting MIL out of bed and what to say to her. You see, she will remember that I shouted last night and she will be very moody with me, but will block out the reason why.
Is it possible to have selective dementia? (Hers is VaD caused by a Stroke.) Is it possible that she still has enough cognition to select what goes in and what doesn't? I don't know, but it certainly seems that way to me.
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