Hello,
My Mum was sectioned into hospital end of Nov and went into her care home middle of December.
She is very unsettled still and asks me all the time to go home. I feel so dreadfully guilty and the enormity of being a part of depriving her of her liberty still affects me so much. I try to comfort myself that she could not live safely alone in her house or that I could go on with how things had been over the years, but I sometimes think maybe there could have been a better alternative than the CH. Although it's a fantastic CH she seems much less advanced than most of the residents on her floor and she is often depressed and says she has nothing to live for. I go in every other day and have coffee and chats and have taken her out on a few occasions, although it's very difficult taking her back afterwards. It's also difficult every time I leave as she doesn't want to be left there and gets very confused.
I just wondered if things do ease up after a while and what people's experiences are by comparison. Any information would be good.
One good thing is that after all the years of abuse, Mum is very happy to see me now, hugs me a lot and tells me she loves me. She even calls me 'Mum' sometimes. I suppose I just want to know she'll eventually settle and she'll be happier. Maybe she needs some additional medication? I am also I think coming to terms with the fact that she'll never see her lovely house again, so am putting my emotions into the mix.
Never easy.
Thank you
My Mum was sectioned into hospital end of Nov and went into her care home middle of December.
She is very unsettled still and asks me all the time to go home. I feel so dreadfully guilty and the enormity of being a part of depriving her of her liberty still affects me so much. I try to comfort myself that she could not live safely alone in her house or that I could go on with how things had been over the years, but I sometimes think maybe there could have been a better alternative than the CH. Although it's a fantastic CH she seems much less advanced than most of the residents on her floor and she is often depressed and says she has nothing to live for. I go in every other day and have coffee and chats and have taken her out on a few occasions, although it's very difficult taking her back afterwards. It's also difficult every time I leave as she doesn't want to be left there and gets very confused.
I just wondered if things do ease up after a while and what people's experiences are by comparison. Any information would be good.
One good thing is that after all the years of abuse, Mum is very happy to see me now, hugs me a lot and tells me she loves me. She even calls me 'Mum' sometimes. I suppose I just want to know she'll eventually settle and she'll be happier. Maybe she needs some additional medication? I am also I think coming to terms with the fact that she'll never see her lovely house again, so am putting my emotions into the mix.
Never easy.
Thank you