I've had to leave the room. My mother has moderate dementia but at times seems really very confused. Especially in the evenings. Lately she can't seem to stay awake in her comfy riser chair and I usually just leave her be as I sit on the couch and do my emails and stuff. This evening though she absolutely refused to bring her pad up to the proper position ( ie it has remained around her knees all evening!) and I couldn't get her on the commode fast enough ( her legs don't work very well and sometimes worse than other times ) . Usually I can cope and enjoy taking care of her. But tonight for some reason I'm so FED UP and feel like a drudge.
And then there are the 'invisibles' that come to mind. it's been a month since my brother has bothered to come and see her. I get so angry and upset on her behalf AND for me......but cannot confront anyone because I may say something I regret. It doesn't help that she tells him not to bother to come because she's not worth visiting. I know he's busy but still you'd think he could make an effort after all she's done for us. It all feels deeply complicated and difficult.
sorry for venting ..........but thanks to TP for letting me do so.
Now back to do the clean up and sooth my mothers' sense of humiliation.
So sad.
submarine
And then there are the 'invisibles' that come to mind. it's been a month since my brother has bothered to come and see her. I get so angry and upset on her behalf AND for me......but cannot confront anyone because I may say something I regret. It doesn't help that she tells him not to bother to come because she's not worth visiting. I know he's busy but still you'd think he could make an effort after all she's done for us. It all feels deeply complicated and difficult.
sorry for venting ..........but thanks to TP for letting me do so.
Now back to do the clean up and sooth my mothers' sense of humiliation.
So sad.
submarine