Arrgghh!
As I've written before mum has mild dementia and lives 200 miles away. To help keep her happy in her own home we have started a routine of us going to her once a month, then she comes to us (she can travel by train ok) once in between so that the most she goes without seeing us is 10 days.
This weekend she was supposed to be coming to us, except she had a stinking cold. No problem - we said we'd go to her, except at 0630 this morning the car wouldn't start So now the car is in the local garage awaiting a new starter motor which may or may not happen today. Meanwhile my mum is 200 miles away almost in tears because she was expecting us by lunchtime and I've just had to tell her we probably can't get down there this weekend.
We can't go down next weekend and the following weekend my brother is due to visit mum (he is mum's step son and so although she gets on really well with him, in her eyes it's not as good as a visit from me) so we have to either hope we get the car back today and dash down and back tomorrow or we have to not see her for 3 weeks. Either way she is miserable and confused and I'm left feeling guilty about something I can't control.
Any thoughts? (And yes we will be looking at getting a new car soon )
As I've written before mum has mild dementia and lives 200 miles away. To help keep her happy in her own home we have started a routine of us going to her once a month, then she comes to us (she can travel by train ok) once in between so that the most she goes without seeing us is 10 days.
This weekend she was supposed to be coming to us, except she had a stinking cold. No problem - we said we'd go to her, except at 0630 this morning the car wouldn't start So now the car is in the local garage awaiting a new starter motor which may or may not happen today. Meanwhile my mum is 200 miles away almost in tears because she was expecting us by lunchtime and I've just had to tell her we probably can't get down there this weekend.
We can't go down next weekend and the following weekend my brother is due to visit mum (he is mum's step son and so although she gets on really well with him, in her eyes it's not as good as a visit from me) so we have to either hope we get the car back today and dash down and back tomorrow or we have to not see her for 3 weeks. Either way she is miserable and confused and I'm left feeling guilty about something I can't control.
Any thoughts? (And yes we will be looking at getting a new car soon )