Alzheimers request.......a poem in memory of my Dad who died last night.

[keywest67]

You may have seen this before but it was sent to me today and it feels like it's my Dad speaking this to me so here goes .....


Do not ask me to remember
Don't try to make me understand
Let me rest and know your with me
Kiss my cheek and hold my hand

I'm confused beyond your concept
I'm sad and sick and lost
All I know is that I need you
To be with me at all cost

Do not loose your patience with me
Do not scold or curse or cry
I can't help the way I'm acting
I can't be different though I try

Just remember that I need you
That the best of me is gone
Please don't fail to stand beside me
Love me till my life is gone.

RIP Dad, love you forever xx

 

[CollegeGirl]

This choked me up. I'm so sorry to hear of your beloved dad's death, please accept my condolences.

 

[Pickles53]

So beautiful keywest. Thank you for posting this.

 

[TinaT]

A wonderful poem. Thank you so much for sharing this

xxTinaT

 

[jimbo 111]

My sympathy to you and your family on your sad loss
A wonderful poem
words that you will treasure forever
jimbo

 

[sleepless]

I had seen this poem before, but reading it now, with my dear husband so much further on, it has brought tears.
I will keep it where I can read it often, (alongside Compassionate Communication for the Memory Impaired) and hope it helps me to be more patient with him.
Thank you for posting the poem, I hope it has helped you too.

 

[kingmidas1962]

I loved this poem too - all I could do for my dad at the end was just be there. I hope he knew.

Huge condolences xxx

Sent from my HTC One_M8 using Talking Point mobile app

 

[keywest67]

Thankyou for your kind words, I do think that ultimately with this horrendous and unpredictable disease ,in the end the only thing you can do for your loved ones is be there for them, my Dad went from displaying first signs of dementia probably 4 years ago, he then had a mild heart attack and they said his blood pressure had gone so low starved oxygen to his brain, he came round with severe Alzheimer's, went went through hell until he eventually went on ebixa and we had him back to a functioning level for 12 months which I am so grateful for but after that his decline was rapid with several it UTI,s and strokes rendering him bedbound and unable to feed, toilet, talk........what heartbreak we have had.........I am relieved he is at peace but I will forever miss the Man my Dad was, kind, funny, loving family man, it's a comfort to know my TP friends are there thankyou x

 

[Lou99]

Thankyou for your kind words, I do think that ultimately with this horrendous and unpredictable disease ,in the end the only thing you can do for your loved ones is be there for them, my Dad went from displaying first signs of dementia probably 4 years ago, he then had a mild heart attack and they said his blood pressure had gone so low starved oxygen to his brain, he came round with severe Alzheimer's, went went through hell until he eventually went on ebixa and we had him back to a functioning level for 12 months which I am so grateful for but after that his decline was rapid with several it UTI,s and strokes rendering him bedbound and unable to feed, toilet, talk........what heartbreak we have had.........I am relieved he is at peace but I will forever miss the Man my Dad was, kind, funny, loving family man, it's a comfort to know my TP friends are there thankyou x

So sorry to hear about your lovely dad - wishing you strength at this awful time - you sound like you were an amazing support to him. I bury my mum tomorrow - so sad and angry , but they are now at peace .... Lou x ps your forum name made me smile - I remember a wonderful dinner with my mum in a little restaurant called Louie's backyard in key west - beautiful place ....

 

[keywest67]

So sorry to hear about your lovely dad - wishing you strength at this awful time - you sound like you were an amazing support to him. I bury my mum tomorrow - so sad and angry , but they are now at peace .... Lou x ps your forum name made me smile - I remember a wonderful dinner with my mum in a little restaurant called Louie's backyard in key west - beautiful place ....

Thankyou for your very kind words, sending you hugs and strength for today xxx
Yes I love Keywest a very beautiful place, keep those happy memories of your Mum coming, that's what I am trying to do and block out the horrors faced over the past few years with Dad, as we all know it's time we need, at least both at rest now x

 

[Fastwalker]

What a lovely poem. It made me think that I am so glad that I tried to help my mum as much as possible. Perhaps she knew I was there in the last weeks when she was so poorly. I took her out the first summer she was in the home to National Trust properties and to the coast. I took her to a local carvery which we used to go to before she went into the home and later to a nice garden centre where she had the frothy coffee the home didn't do and lovely scones.
I think I will go there today. The funeral is Thursday.

 

[jan.s]

Such a moving poem. Thank you for sharing it.

 

[loza]

Death Certificate

How did other people get on with cause of death on the certificate, because of mum's advanced dementia at 77 I wanted it put down as the cause of death, as 'end stage dementia' for people looking back in years to come, well you would I had asked for something out of the ordinary, I had to talk to the coroner who was unsure whether to do a Post mortem ( she had been in care for 22 months) and knew she had problems for the last 15 years, we had to have Dyspagia as contributing factor....it seems very odd when Dementia has been treated with drugs for the last 5 years!!

 

[Fastwalker]

Cause of death for my mum was a chest infection (the GP said she had been responding well to it). The secondary cause was mixed dementia and something that I looked up as being heart failure. I cant argue but I would have thought it was the dementia that caused her to stop eating and get so weak that she succumbed to a chest infection.

 

[keywest67]

Hi
Cause of death for Dad was chest infection but he had a number of strokes which stopped him being able to swallow and ultimately this is what caused the chest infection.
I believe Dad had vascular dementia as well as the Alzheimer's which caused the strokes and his rapid decline............his funeral is 12th Dec