Snip's mum now at peace

[Snip]

Seem to have been away from here for a long time....but I am finding life very difficult. Our lovely old dog had to be put to sleep on 11 November....and it opened the floodgates....I have spent most of the time since then crying for her and for my mum....I feel utterly lost. My husband loved our dog and cried for her on the day but now he says he just feels a bit sad but that's all. He feels the same for my mum, I think. My sister didn't have any feelings really for our dog (she's not an animal person!) and she seems to be coping well with losing mum.

So I now feel like the inadequate one, crying all the time and really depressed. I thought I would cope better than this

Special thoughts to Rosie....hope you're doing ok.

Love to all here

Snip xx

[Vonny]

Dear Snip,

I'm not surprised you are constantly depressed and crying...but no more of the "inadequate" please. There is nothing inadequate about mourning a parent and a much loved pet, and the loss of your dog has probably brought it all back about your mum. Your sister is just grieving in a different way to you...it doesn't mean she is coping, it just appears that way.

I wish I had some words to make you feel better, but all can say is I'm rooting for you and please don't feel bad about grieving.

Love and hugs to you

Vonny xx

[Rosie]

Hello Snip, just read your posting, sorry to hear the sad news about your dog, bless. Sounds like your having a real bad time, thank you for thinking of me x x I' m doing ok, went back to work this week though, first day was fine but nearly lost it today & was on the verge of breaking down in tears, it was very stressful shift, short staffed, very, very busy & a very rude Sister from a different ward spoke to me very rudely & abrubtly & slammed phonevdown & i just wanted to cry ( ivwas thinking to myself) i really dont need this, doesnt she realize i have just lost my Mam, i know this Sister didnt know me from adam, & to be honest with you maybe she was having a bad day but she wanted me to borrow one of my nurses to work on her ward & because i said our ward was also busy i had a very rude reply & words of " ill take this up with the manager !!!!! I have been a nurse 30 years plus & wondering " do i really still want to be one"?????? Sorry Snip i know you have way too much to deal with at the moment without having to listen to my moans, sorry..... I really hope your mood lifts very soon & you start to see some light, luv & ((((( hugs ))))) to you, take care Rosie x x x