I haven't posted for a while and a lot has happened since.
For those who don't know, dad has mild/moderate vascular dementia/ alzheimers. He still works f/t at 71yrs. Mum is mentally unstable and had a TIA i the past. She mocks dad and bullies him.
I have a very difficult relationship with mum because of her behaviour towards dad and I. I can't stand to see what she's doing to dad. I'm not working and in Aug 2012 I finally moved out of their house due to mums erratic behaviour and detrimental effect of my health.
I was living here, there and everywhere till the end of November when I moved in with my sister who was never there to help of support me with family matters. I also have a brother who thinks I'm the reason for all conflict in the house despite being the only one single handed looking out for both parents.
Dad had recently caught the flu and I offered to come and look after him but he said he was ok but I was increasingly concerned as he was breathless which was unusual. Mum who is meant to be looking after him wasn't doing a good job, she hadn't called the Dr. I called the emergency Dr because he was gasping for air and more confused than normal. The Dr said it was all flu related. Granted the symptoms could fit but I still felt something wasn't right.
Anyway last Friday I received a call from my estranged mum saying dad had a TIA and upon investigation he had had a heart attack over the past two weeks. He had lost partial vision. He is in hospital and waiting for an angiogram. They know his heart muscle is weak and there is a blood clot in the heart. He is upbeat but fragile. He keeps repeating things but that's normal.
He told me it's stress.....stress from living at home, stress from worrying about me because I don't feel like I have a place in the family and feel isolated. He told me I'm the only family he has, he needs me and doesn't trust the rest of the family.
I am currently back at the family home to be near the hospital to see dad. My mum and sister (who I convinced to come to see dad) are thick as thieves at the moment, leaving me out of everything. I'm feeling isolated and the only family I have is in hospital. My sister and I had an argument (because she felt I didn't help make dinner. I asked and she said she was fine besides when I've been caring for the folks for 3/4yrs during which mum had a TIA, major artery op', hypo's, back injections etc no one was here to help me) so now she is completely blanking me and my existence. I feel really down and stressed.....