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    I'm a long distance carer (live 7hrs flight away) and was thinking about my Mum tonight, just after talking to her on the phone, I then went onto my Facebook account and this is the first thing that came up.


    "My dear girl, the day you see Iím getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what Iím going through.

    If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, donít interrupt to say: ďYou said the same thing a minute agoĒ... Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same st
    ory night after night until you would fall asleep.

    When I donít want to take a bath, donít be mad and donít embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl?

    When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and donít look at me that way... remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with lifeís issues every day... the day you see Iím getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what Iím going through.

    If I occasionally lose track of what weíre talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I canít, donít be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you.

    And when my old, tired legs donít let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked.

    When those days come, donít feel sad... just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love.

    Iíll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love Iíve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you... my darling daughter."

    - Unknown

    Brought tears to my eyes...


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    Thats really beautiful
    The person who can laugh at themselves will never cease to be amused

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    Just saw that on Facebook as well. Have sent it to my daughter.

    Barb & Polly
    (What a team). 👯.

    What seems like the right thing to do could also be the hardest thing you have ever done in your life.

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    *tears* - that's so powerfully poignant, I'm overwhelmed. I don't know what to do with my feelings about it but in some way it spurs me on. I'm going now to hug my mum, to kiss her, to love her as I have loved her all my life, as she has me. Gosh, I'm heartbroken

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    Thanks for sharing this Lima. I often take my Dads hand now as he needs me, and it seems the most natural thing in the world.

    Jane x

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    Thank you all.
    It's so beautiful & sad at the same time. I've now decided to get this put on to a canvas.


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    That was beautiful- sadly although we love our mum- we have never been a tactile ,huggy, holding hands family in fact it was despised by our mum but it doesn't mean we don't care. Thankyou for sharing this though xx

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    This is so beautiful, my eyes are misting over. And so true. That's what I'm trying to do with my mother. Thanks to TP, I've learned new ways of interacting with her.

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    I've just shared that on my page.
    I've never really thought about it from that angle before. It's really made me think.
    It's yet another reason why we should respect our elders whatever their ailments




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