He's only recently diagnosed with some form of dementia (hospital less than interested in finding out, just wanted him shipped out of the ward fast), but sometimes I'm almost convinced he's getting better.
Conversations are becoming more rational, not less, and today he's cross that he isn't allowed out on his own for a walk. He's still a bit shaky on why he's in the CH though.
I'm presuming that it's wishful thinking on my part, and probably down to the CH being a calming influence in his life right now, taking away the stress of living alone and having to cope with day to day issues by himself?
However, he's getting very restless about being 'held prisoner', and also about not being able to fit in with the other residents, whom he sees as being too far gone to have a conversation with. Have to say, he seems to be right on that one, almost everyone else we've seen is at the vacant, non-verbal shuffling stage, whereas he's physically fit and can chat perfectly well.
Think what I'm wondering is whether I should push for him to be reassessed, just to check that he does actually have dementia, and isn't recovering from an undiagnosed stroke even though the hospital say they checked that.
If he does truly have dementia, where do we stand with the wanting to go out for a walk? I've suggested that he goes out with the carers, but he's adamant that he doesn't want to be treated like a child. I live several hours drive away, and it's so hard to figure out what's going on and what to do for the best.
His parting shot today was that he's going to have to force the issue if he isn't let outside soon, whatever that means. Does the CH have the authority to prevent him from leaving? Or am I going to get a call telling me that he's either vanished, or been locked up!
We are very new to all this, so any advice or ideas would be most welcome. It seems very hard to get any help from the medical profession, who have all said that there's no treatment for him, and his care is up to us - but we have no real idea of the options....or what's best for him.