This is a tricky one. MIL has two sons living near her who see her every day as do we DILs. Since MIL has needed more help, BIL has demonstrated that he doesn't ever really understand what's going on.
We've just sent off the forms for LPA which took ages to complete as BIL always wants to be in charge without understanding what needs to be done. (it's a separate story which would take ages to tell)
He just rang my OH to say he's going to ask his financial advisor for advice about MIL's house. When FIL retired 20 years ago he took out a loan against the value of the house. Of course the interest gets to be more every year and it's not a very good thing to have done. However, BIL wants MIL to sell the house to him and his brother - nothing fraudulent he just wants the loan company to go away. BUT he thinks he can do it without telling his mother Does anyone out there have any suggestions for tactfully telling him that what he's proposing is illegal?
PS Like many people with dementia, MIL is utterly paranoid about being "put into a home". She'd go ballistic if anyone told her what he's planning.