Hi, does anyone have any advice on my Father who, almost nightly tries to leave his house. He has got a Full Time carer and me, his son, who lives with him, but on occasion, he will wake up in night and attempt to exit the front door. He's unable to open it and then he gets extremely agitated and whacks the door with his stick. Whilst they are thick double glazed glass, he's managed to break both top pane and bottom pane, they are now replaced with toughened glass, so I hope he don't break again.
Coupled with this door kicking and whacking, there is verbal abuse. I try best not to open the door as then going into the street it can cause disturbance out there, as he can whack his stick around the wall, or the hand rail, which is rather loud, esp like 3am.
I have heard you can put a mirror on the door to deter this, however, it's not a wood door, its 2 pane glass, so I doubt it can be safely mounted. It would be possible to hang something from the top, like a picture of bookcase, but my dad is very clever, I have my doubts.
Coupled with this, is other acts of aggression, which includes banging his head against a wall when he don't get his way, for example not being able to exit the house. We can try to give him Diazepam, which the Doctor recommended, but a. Have to try to get him to drink it via cup tea & b. It don't have much effect, when he's so agitated.
He has been to a Respite care home and he did all of the above, to the extent that they won't have him again, and another care home, who confirmed his similar behaviour at their partner day care, so that's now been cancelled, which is a real nuisance as the Full Time carer don't get his relief.
In fact at the Respite care home he escaped, apparently through a window, so they had to send 4 people out to hunt for him, I think this is reason they won't have him again. Also he got out of the Day Care, although they have got a pin code system, he walked about quarter mile and got onto Underground track, lucky enough a Good Samaritan got him off and he got back to Day Centre, somehow, I don't have all details how.
He's quite a handful, and he surely will have to go into a Home at some point, but trying to give him a few last moments in a loving house what he recognises, before that day comes to pass. Coupled with all the above is my frustration, under a separate post, that I can't safely unlock some of his assets so a. Boiler replacement. b. Downstairs loo. c. Additional carers all of which go some way to benefit him.