My dad is still going through the diagnosis stages of his dementia- he had a CT scan last week. However, he only scored 15/30 in his last memory test.
Anyway, for over a year he's had a paranoia about money which has increased as his behaviour has got worse. I have applied for LPA but it will probably be a few months until it comes through. In the mean time I can't figure out what he's doing.
I live with him, I currently pay for everything barring direct debits. This came about even when I knew he still had money because he was going on and on about how he had none, how it had all been stolen from him etc. This is fine, I can manage the daily stuff.
But he is still convinced that all his money has been taken from him (even when he has a wad of cash in his wallet). He is going about telling people this, and also implying that I have beaten him with sticks to take it from him. One 'friend' even convinced him to call the police on me, and later called the social services on his behalf informing them I was a 'financial and physical danger to him'. A certain amount of this I can ignore, even his visits to the citizen's advice bureau, which were frequent at one point. What worries me is that he is still getting money from somewhere- in the last couple of weeks he has bought a pair of shoes, some expensive bottles of vitamins, and a new handbag for me, not counting all the unwanted food he brings home (invariably meat- we are vegetarian). Yet he won't allow me to see inside his wallet, or to touch his bank card. Today I caught him coming home from the bank, having tried to get money and failed. But I got the impression that he is going in there and handing over his card and they are giving him money. This really worries me as I'm afraid by the time I get charge of his accounts he will have done something irreversible. Also I work full time and have no control over what he does when I'm not here. We had a social worker visit last week who implied court of protection might be necessary, but I have no idea what this involves, or if in the long run it would benefit me. I can't do anything for him outright as he's getting more and more suspicious of me every day. I don't even have an opportunity to hide his bank card as he keeps it with him at all times. I found today he had hidden all his paperwork, including the house deeds, in a drawer in his room- I've taken these now. I'd really appreciate any suggestions on this.