heartache

[carolmay]

My dad is being moved to another care home because he needs more one to one attention, he has been in his current place for almost 6 month but they don't have the staff to give him the care he needs, I know he will probably be better off but it means I wont be able to see him as much due to the distance . I feel so guilty about him having to go into care even though I know it would be impossible to try to care for him myself, I love him so much and it breaks my heart to see him lose more and more of his memories, he even forgets the name of things such as chair or table or toilet and I know one day in the not too distant future he will forget me too, I've known a lot of heartache over the past 5 years losing my sister my Mum and my brother but this is like an ongoing nightmare and at times I get so low I wonder if I can make it through

[GZN]

I am so sorry that this difficulty has arisen for you. It is all so sad isn't it and you are not alone in feeling very, very low because of it all. How lovely though that despite his illness your love for your Dad is still strong and that you have good memories of him, even as his own memory fails. I hope that the time you can spend with him, even though it will be shorter because of distance will be as sweet.

[Pheath]

I feel your pain and live it daily myself too seeing my lovely dad get worse with this awful illness, it’s slowly robbing him of everything. There’s nothing more heart-wrenching and there seems no light at the tunnel, only harder times ahead. Am really sorry your dad has to move further away due to his care needs increasing, we have to somehow find a strength within us to take on every new challenge thrown our way and it’s amazing when tested what we have the ability to withstand. You’ve already had to endure a great deal of loss in your life so can imagine this must feel like the last straw but just try if you can to hold on to the positive that his new home will be much more able to give him the care and attention he needs. I visit dad very often but sometimes think if I didn’t go as much would be slightly less affected than I am at present. As the previous post says you are definitely not on your own here – many others are walking or have walked the very same path, it’s a long and frightening one but we’re still here to tell the tale.

[CollegeGirl]

Hello carolmay, reading your post, I'm so sorry that you have lost so many dear people in such a short time, and now facing this with your dad. I don't really know what to say but would like to send you a hug and strength for the times ahead. xx